We’ve all known the above idiom, yet many men continue to embody it in reality, usually for the worse. We then have are cases of men wifing up sluts, whores, pornstars, predatory women, etc. with a deluded self rationalization that such trash is indeed treasure, and with often terrible outcomes, some of which are triggered later out of natural territorial instincts. Why? Because of faulty discernment while choosing women to begin with.

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One single object (a woman) appears in three different ways: to the man who practices austerity it appears as a corpse, to the sensual it appears as a woman, and to the dogs as a lump of flesh. – Kautilya, 370 BC-283 BC

When it comes to women, mere appearances are (and can be) deceptive

The Opossum: In playing dead, the opossum plays stupid. Many a predator has therefore left it alone. Who could believe that such an ugly, unintelligent, nervous little creature could be capable of such deception? – Robert Greene, Law 21 (“Play a sucker to catch a sucker – seem dumber than your mark”), The 48 Laws of Power

In the modern world, shallowness exists not only in appearances but also in perceptive thinking. Modern society’s over-emphasis on a woman’s “packaging,” the oversexualization of women, narcissism and fem-centric societal indoctrination creates unhealthy patterns of shallow blue pill thinking and behavior, affecting both genders alike. With this modern emphasis on superficiality, modern women’s beauty rarely does penetrate to their character, and is more often than not, “skin-deep”—leaving them suitable for casual sex, but not commitment.


But due to these dysfunctional trends and thinking patterns which influence modern human interaction, a lot of (gullible) men often become committing suckers for a “sucker” in the modern world, not knowing that they might be dealing with a Dark Triad woman in metamorphosis (fueled by her years on the cock carousel), beneath her innocuous appearance.

As blushing will sometimes make a whore pass for a virtuous woman, so modesty may make a fool seem a man of sense. -Jonathan Swift (1667-1745)

Usually, they’re in love with such a woman: either for her superficial persona which may encompass either ideal but superfluous sexual, aesthetic, or caring abilities while ignoring other serious flaws in her character, lifestyle, and background. The illusion of love often makes men blind to their partner’s flaws: a fact which science also corroborates.

Thus, in a dating world where superficiality, deception and amoral power games abound, it’s easy to blame men for the lack of discernment,  as the fate of a modern man when choosing women is: damned if he does, and damned if he doesn’t—especially when the responsibility for his (and his woman’s) mistakes are primarily thrust upon his shoulders by modern feminist society. Yet, the factors which lead to his abysmal choice of a trashy woman often remain unexplored, but must be investigated to warn others to avoid them.

The snares which lead to abysmal choices

There could be several, but the most commonly seen reasons for a man’s faulty discernment while choosing a woman are (and not necessarily in that order):

1. Ignorance

..of Game and red pill wisdom which would enlighten, even save him. Knowledge is power, but the superficial modern man often chooses to wade in the bliss of his blue pill, self-absorbed ignorance. A classic analogy to gender interaction is the fable of the scorpion and the frog , but tell it to a modern man, he’d rarely believe it only till when it often comes to sting him inevitably in his dating life.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye. – Jim Henson

Thus, ignorance is what often dominates the blue pill mind, preparing him to be preyed upon. Sometimes, it’s the blue piller’s virulent refusal to accept the knowledge of true female nature is what constitutes his self-rationalized delusions about women, which leads to his downfall.


The options in this choice are often mutually exclusive—implied by the famous seductress herself, hinting about the commonly seen natural inability of a man to love a woman once he’s “understood” her: a truth however often ignored by the ignorant man.

2. Sexual thirst

So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. – Napoleon Hill, “Think and Grow Rich”

It’s effects can be further subdivided into:

a) Scarcity mentality –  due to lack of options, or lack of game:

Regulating male sexual thirst (especially while young) is especially difficult, more so in today’s oversexualized and hypergamous modern societies. Add a lack of game, and you have a recipe for sexual frustration which succumbs to the scarcity mentality. This causes such men to sexually scavenge, i.e. wife up the discarded sexual trash of others. What’s forgotten by these scavenging men is that when it comes to used plates: spin and pass them around, but don’t buy them.

Elsewhere, the scarcity mentality appears in societies where men don’t have enough women (or “quality” women) resulting in a massive sea of cocks where even an “attractive” pussy (even if overused) is the elusive prize. With the power to grant sex shifting even more to these women there, the men often commit to trash due to lack of options.

On the other hand, a modern man who’s littered with trashy women around him in a modern wasteland culture, could think he’s found his unicorn when he moves abroad to find women who might actually put up an act like how ideal women should behave as. This, coupled with his search to find his unicorn, might mislead him, as a woman acting as an ideal woman is not the same as truly being one.

Every society and culture has its flaws, so does its women—so the way a man can stop himself from forming an over-estimated perception about foreign women is to first understand the local culture, environment, and dating trends; plus how the local men in their societies deal with women, and why so.

But what usually happens is that modern men often readily transgress the same law whilst abroad with their foreign unicorns, which instead they might vigorously follow back home:


If you allow people to feel they possess you to any degree, you lose all power over them. By not committing your affections, they will only try harder to win you over. Stay aloof and you gain the power that comes from their attention and frustrated desire. Play the Virgin Queen: Give them hope but never satisfaction.– Robert Greene, Law 20 from The 48 Laws of Power

b) Sexual thirst for novelty or a fetish

On the flip side, in a scenario of sexual abundance, the thirst for sexual variety can blind a man’s perception of an evil woman: partly by her beautiful but deceptive packaging, and partly by his own need to seduce her because of his need for sexual variety.This is where Dark Triad Women (DTWs) usually feast upon gullible but resourceful men’s need for sexual novelty or fetishes.

c) Uncontrolled sexual thirst which leads to unexpected pregnancies

…which usually entails an unexpected marriage as well, as commonly seen today.

3. Societal indoctrination

The damaging influences of gyno-centric ideology of modern feminist societies is enough to doom a man’s existence right from the cradle. Add to that: dysfunctional familiesmasculine women, a lack of proper male role models, and a godless society around him who all tell (and teach) him that men cannot have preferences when it comes to women they want to marry, and should accept women without questioning their background or analyzing their behavior.

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Old habits die hard and so does childhood indoctrination, which is akin to writing your thoughts on a growing individual’s mind, which absorbs your thoughts as its own simply on trust. The abuse of a man’s trust thus begins right at his birth by those who indoctrinate him unnaturally against his own nature.

Should he choose to rebel to reclaim the freedom of his individuality and mind—free from female approval—he is mercilessly demeaned or worse, shunned. Fear is used to control him by the herd which raises him by taking away his security, freedom and starving him of his pleasure—to secure his submission.

Fully grown up and beta-indoctrinated, he believes that women are special snowflakes who can change for the better, even after an inglorious past, as that’s what he’s socially told. Ever forgiving, he’s socially prepared to don the role of a Hosea, ready to accept an undeserving woman, for that’s what socially expected of him. Worse, he succumbs to his oneitis: a mental hoax again partly influenced by his societal herd.

The biggest damages that the matrix of modern feminist societies does to men is that it not only feminizes them, destroys their masculinity and makes them subservient to women, but also it destroys their minds, and their ability to properly discern a woman and her disruptive (or destructive) potential.

Thus, the best way to make a delusional, fearful, misguided, and ignorant chump is to raise him as one. Modern feminist societies unfailingly succeed in raising large herds of them, destined for subjugation to women.

4. The fear of loneliness

But what happens when the society, its indoctrination, the people he believed in, and the women he loved, have all failed or left a man alone? That’s when his real test begins, and:

The real test for a man is how he lives with himself, alone.

Yet, many escape this test by jumping into marriage because they fear loneliness for which to deal with, they need a partner. If a man fears living with himself, why should someone live with him to begin with? Societal indoctrination is also to blame for this crippling fear, by heavily indoctrinating modern men with romantic blue pill ideology designed to render and raise men psychologically disposed towards dependency and fulfillment from women.

The promise (and hope) of receiving spousal care in old age is another societal lie which continues to influence men into commitment, but if only such hopes realistically bore some fruit in today’s shallow world. Such hopes are forests in which only fools roam, and the modern man has many such self-destructive delusional forests of hope constructed by feminism around him, to get lost into forever.

5. The need to procreate and pass on his legacy

Indeed, the desire for children and procreation naturally resides in men. But should that need ever turn into a unhealthy desperation, it can cloud enough a man’s perception of the woman he’s dealing with, leading to an erroneous judgment and regrettable decision which can cost time, freedom, and money.

It’s said that “the quality of a dish does not only depend on the type of ingredients used; it also depends on the quality of the utensil it’s cooked in.”

Thus, one of the worst errors a man can do is to have children by using his seed for the womb of a trashy woman—an interpretation for the analogy above—out of desperation for fatherhood, or simply because she’s willing to bear his children.

6. The defeatist misinterpretation of “acceptance”

Can be influenced by any of the above factors. A commonly seen example is when men decide to forsake judgment completely before committing to women, “to go with the flow, and accept them for what they are.”

But, “acceptance” of people’s flaws doesn’t mean one also resignedly ‘accepts’ them all in one’s tribe automatically.

True acceptance means accepting humanity’s imperfections, but at the same time accepting that the power and freewill to choose whom to relate to still lies with us. Would everyone accept a scorpion as a pet, even though that means unanimously accepting its venomous nature?

Playing with fire could indeed be fun, but only if one has the knowledge of a fireman to begin with. The same analogy can be applied to dealing with dubious women.

Not all men can deal with scorpions (or women) the way Bond does…

7. Lack of self-worth

A direct result of gyno-centric indoctrination and sexual thirst, many modern men lack in self-esteem when dealing with women, often considering them to be the prize. This leads them to white knight and wife up used trash in hypergamous societies where women reward sex to alphas first .

Such a man’s low self-esteem and sexual thirst often propels him to commitment with an overused woman (whom he considers higher in value than himself, and sees himself as lucky because she still chose him while society lauds his deed as a win), as getting sex in a marriage to an used woman is better than no sex at all.

The solution

The simplest solution would be taking the red pill, and learning game. Two simple methods derived from both which could help are:

1. Pose as a ‘friend’, but do work as a spy

People don’t change, they just have momentary steps outside of their true character – Chad Kultgen, The Lie

A common reason why modern marriages often fail or have a shelf life is that because a number of women perceive marriage as a prize or a destination to be attained (using deception) for social benefits and peer validation; and not as a journey of life meant to be partnered with a man.

Thus, in today’s times, it’s surprising to note how women (even promiscuous ones) still desire the ideal institution of marriage—even if it may always not be with noble intentions. So what happens when the destination of marriage is attained?

As seen often, when a woman captures a man’s commitment, she loses interest. The man is then left to fend for himself: either psychologically or worse, even physically discarded by his mate through divorce—to stumble on the rest of this journey alone, thus making a farce of the modern institutions of both marriage and family.

A wedding is a funeral where you smell your own flowers. – Eddie Cantor

But this could be avoided to a greater degree by probing effectively about her background, her values, her dreams, her lifestyle, her past (directly or indirectly) and her reputation, before accepting her for mere face (or ass) value.


but even then, don’t believe completely and everything that you’d hear from, and about her. Because:

2. Always consider the TIME factor, and project her mentally in the future

People around you, constantly under the pull of their emotions, change their ideas by the day or by the hour, depending on their mood. You must never assume that what people say or do in a particular moment is a statement of their permanent desires.  ― Robert Greene, Mastery

Throughout history, wise men have tested women through responsibility, freedom, resources (money), affection, and sometimes, a limited amount of power transfer. But the greatest test of a woman’s character is always through time, thus it’s never wise to form a hasty opinion of her, no matter how well her initial behavior may be.

When marrying, ask yourself this question; Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory. – Friedrich Nietzsche

Time reveals the true colors and depth of a woman’s and the consistency of her virtuesthe real hallmark of  of a truly good woman

It’s not beauty but fine qualities, my girl, that keep a husband. – Euripides

However, when dealing with more deceptive versions of women, self mastery definitely helps.The more a man masters himself, the more clearer and error-free his perceptions and judgments of women will be.



On the flip side, sometimes a man might actually discard a good woman in his life, thinking she’s trash—which results in her only to be partnered by another man who knows her real value. These are indeed rare exceptions but nevertheless possible, but such exceptions to the rule does not mean that this itself become the rule. However, game still helps to offset this error by creating more options.

But remember: sprinkling gold dust on shit doesn’t make it gold. Poke it with a stick, and you’d get the inevitable stink. The same thing applies to a trashy woman’s character. The tests for a man in his dealings with women is to discolor his perception from the influencing factors mentioned to “see” her for what she really is—and not what her appearance, or what modern feminist indoctrination expects him to believe.

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