A while back I wrote a column about the pros and cons of practicing the Venusian Arts as a black man in the U.S. I touched on a few things that make a significant difference such as the expectation for us to push for sex, and the fact that we shouldn’t expect women to pressure us to put rings on their fingers (though they often push for some sort of exclusivity if you’re game is tight).
People on and off the web assume that because I don’t game or date black women anymore, then I must only approach white girls. Though I couldn’t care less about who people think I’m dating or running game on (though I do have a sweet tooth for Latinas), I have had success with Caucasian women for quite some time.
Cougars, mudsharks, college chicks, and everything in between have all taken a ride on the Donovan Sharpe Express at some point or another. But my ability to slay these girls was anything but dumb luck or good fortune. And you can bet your ass that learning to game them as a man of a different race didn’t happen over night. I had to recognize the necessary changes in my game and work at it to become successful:
…as soon as I became cognizant of the racial components of game and tweaked my approach accordingly, my conquests with the second sex improved considerably.
About 30% of our US readers are not white. And because most women in this country are white, it would help to know a few tricks of the trade on how to meet them romantically. So here are five things that men of a darker hue can adjust in order to improve their odds with white girls.
5. Don’t be a stereotype
Back in ’14, Steven Kendall wrote a column about Asian men in the West. He talked about the difficulties they have shaking the stereotypical view of them and how it quite literally puts a choke hold on their sexual prospects—even with women of their own race:
The dismal reality you find yourself in is that women don’t want you for anything except the occasional help on a computer or numbers-related problem. Without knowing it, you are at all times competing with your one billion brothers and cousins to be the World’s Least Fuckable Man.
-Excerpt from An Open Letter To Asian Men Of The West by Steven Kendall
A guy I worked with a few years back came to the states from India in his early twenties. He’s a decent looking dude, a cool guy, and recently ditched his office job to become a charter pilot. This dude is living the dream so you would think he’d be swimming in women but because he looks, acts, and talks like a stereotypical Indian he repels women like a citronella candle repels mosquitoes.
We all have personality traits that have been infused in us through our experiences, upbringing, and environment. Sometimes they work for us, other times they work against us. Within the context of gaming white females it is paramount not to be the stereotypical version of your given race. You’ve got to stand out from the crowd to get noticed by women.
The exception, of course, is black men (and a few Hispanic nationalities). I talked about the so-called “assumed alpha advantage” that black men seem to have when gaming any race of female in the article I referenced at this start of this one:
While most white men in the Anglo world have to prove their sexual fitness to women (on the “alpha fucks” side of hypergamy) there’s an unspoken sentiment that black men who are at or near the extreme poles of the financial hierarchy (wealthy and poor) are natural alphas. The hip hop culture, ghettos, and black professional athletes make compelling arguments for that assumption but the truth is no one really knows for sure.
The fact of the matter is that black men are portrayed by the media as natural, static alphas. For better or worse this places black men higher on the SMV totem pole than any other man of color in the West. When it comes down to it, a woman will bang who she perceives as an alpha regardless of how “hood” he is.
No, this doesn’t mean ditch your culture, become another person, or try to lose your foreign accent just to get white chicks, but we all know that “being ourselves” isn’t going to cut it when running game on females of any race. You have to connect with her while maintaining your uniqueness. This sounds difficult but it’s actually quite easy and requires little practice.
Which leads me to my next tip which is…
4. Accentuate your “SWPL” tendencies
If you reside anywhere for an extended period of time, it’s inevitable that you’ll be influenced by your surroundings and eventually take a liking to many of the cultural norms around you. Using your affinities for certain aspects of Western culture will help you to find common ground with American women. In other words, embracing a few of your “stuff white people like” habits rather than tamping them down works in your favor when gaming Caucasian females.
Again, this doesn’t mean you have to start drinking Starbucks and following the Kardashians just to have something to talk to white girls about. But showing her that you can connect with her on some level will increase her comfort level with you and make her more receptive to game and escalation.
When girls see my bike rack on my Jeep Wrangler, it gives them a glimpse of the “All-American” guy they drool over in rom-coms. Of course my skin tone and tattoos takes me out of the running for husband material (thankfully) but the fact that they see I’m not completely clueless about their world works to my advantage.
If you like drinking wine (I’m a huge fan of red wine), take her to a wine tasting event. If you dig classic rock and roll (my personal favorite) throw on some Boston when you’re in the car with her. The bottom line here is not to be ashamed to admit or show that you like a few SWPL-endorsed indulgences for fear you might betray your culture or come off as a “sell out.”
Staying true to yourself doesn’t mean rejecting things you genuinely enjoy to keep up appearances. So embrace your SWPL side a little and watch your interactions with white chicks escalate from casual conversations to planned meet ups.
3. Make white friends
Social proof is one of the most powerful parts of a man’s overall game. If a woman sees a man has a lot of friends, acquaintances, connections, and the approval of good looking females, she will be more attracted to him because he is socially approved.
However, if a white woman you’re interested in sees that you only have Black, Hispanic, or Asian friends, not only will she be in a perpetual state of apprehension in terms of comfort (which hinders attraction), she’ll start wonder “what’s wrong with you” if people of her own kind aren’t signing off on you.
Of course there’s nothing “wrong” with you if you don’t have a rainbow coalition of friends but it’s important to, once again, remember that women have to be comfortable with you in order to be relaxed around you. If they’re not relaxed, you’re not getting laid and that’s all there is to it. Making friends with white dudes (it helps if they’re like-minded) will most certainly boost your social value as well as give you access to more white chicks as a natural consequence.
2. Avoid giving off beta vibes
Lower value Caucasian women know their options are limited with regards to high value white males. To compensate, some latch onto lower value white men, and some date outside their race to expand their prospects. Great for men of color right?
If you’re a man with red pill knowledge who stays in shape and in the black financially, you’re going to have a more “expensive” taste in women—namely women who are fit and beautiful. As we all know in the manosphere, the quickest way to making low quality females such as fatties, single moms, and parachute seeking post-wall sluts your main source of poon, is to give off provider vibes.
Banging the desperate white females mentioned above on the regular is easy. But as a man in demand, you’re looking to dine on steak and lobster—not hot dogs and under cooked tater tots. Giving high value white women (or any woman for that matter) the impression that you’d take care of them or wife them up will do two things: 1) Make the good-looking ones put you on the back burner until she’s done riding the cock carousel because she thinks you’ll rescue her from her bad decisions when she hits The Wall and 2) It will draw the low value females to you at an alarming rate. A lose-lose situation to be sure.
The key here is to refrain from talking about the money you make, the stability of your job, etc. Presenting yourself as a Beta Bucks option as opposed to an Alpha Fuck will give you desert dick-itis. Sure, this is standard game. But good looking white females have the most suitors of any other race of female in the West. They have the ultimate abundance mentality so if she catches so much as a trace amount of Captain Save-A-Ho tendencies, you’ll be put into the backup plan category with the other half dozen dudes she has there already.
1. Get ripped, get rich, get status
Tell you something you don’t already know, right? Maybe. But as far as the sexual market goes, men of color are at a disadvantage because of our skin tone and this applies to both sides of the female imperative. We can deny it all we want to and take the SJW route and proclaim that women should be aroused by a “good heart.” But we know that outward appearance matters to women almost as much as it matters to men…..
…..unless your body fat percentage is sub 5%, you’re net worth is at least seven figures, and a celebrity. Okay, so those examples are extreme and few men in the world embody all three simultaneously but you get the picture.
If you have a darker tint to your skin, you’re going to have to increase your SMV in the areas you have control over. All things being equal, white women prefer white men. So the solution is to tip the most important traits that attract them in your favor.
This means you have to be in better shape, have more social currency, and be better off financially than the average white guy in order elevate your status with fair skinned girls. So hit the gym, stop spending money on useless crap you don’t need, and start making friends with movers and shakers.
…this isn’t about developing relationships, cultivating long term companionship, or finding a wife. This is about increasing your chances at dating Caucasian women and nothing more. If one of your trysts with white girls turns into something more, cool. Adjust your game accordingly and let the good times roll.
It’s important to remember, however, that because of the overabundance of options they have combined with their lack of impulse control which is fortified by the YOLO lifestyle crammed down their throats by anything and everything around them, white chicks are at or near the top of the notch count tally. It goes without saying that this makes them some of the worst significant others out there.
My next installment will be for my Caucasian brothers and will cover how to game non-white chicks. Because I’m not white I can’t contribute to this column in terms of content. My friends “Paul” and “Doug,” however, most certainly can and are more than willing to share their knowledge and experience. Stay tuned.
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