There has been something that has been bothering me lately. Bothering me so much so I feel compelled to write about it in the silly hope it will reach at least one male who has voluntarily cloaked his eyes of this necessary truth. And I see it everywhere, in America at least. Unfortunately it is nothing new at all, and something we have all commonly designated as one of the main contributors to the female attitude encompassed in western society these days.

This is the valuation of women higher than their actual worth by men. I know you have seen it too. The well-dressed, moderately in-shape man walking down the street holding a chubster’s hand. The decent looking guy with money having a Friday night dinner with a girl who could be a face double for Sarah Jessica Parker. Even the average guy who is being yelled at by an obese American girl who wears yoga pants, despite it causing ocular pain to those in her immediate orbit. Please guys, stop it. I’m not even asking you to stop it for the greater good of our society (which is important), but for yourselves.

Let me put it bluntly: a woman’s looks heavily dictate the role she plays in a man’s life. Yet this is rarely the case in America and increasingly abroad. Instead I see what I described above, and just want to grab the offending male and shake him. Shake him hard. Tell him “it doesn’t have to be this way, it really doesn’t.” I’ve actually done that before with friends and the response I received was along the lines of “you don’t understand love like I do.” So let me try and break it down this way instead, with a very rudimentary and non-exhaustive categorization of how men should treat women of various levels of attractiveness. Each category range will follow with a short cheat sheet.

As always, a few disclaimers. First, I fully understand looks are not everything. The ability of a girl to pull a Gandalf and magically make her teeth disappear during a blowjob counts for something. Knowing her way around a kitchen and having the desire to be there is not to be overlooked. Having slept with 3 guys in her life versus 30 this year puts her in a different category all together (see this recent article on how to categorize based on this factor).

If she’s bisexual, by all means engage in a short term relationship even if she is a peg below the standard. And that is why my bolded statement above says heavily, as opposed to exclusively. Nonetheless for purposes of this article, we are focusing purely on looks. Put aside the bisexual blowjob Italian cook for the time being.

Second, I will not hold myself out as holier than thou. I’ve deviated from this framework in the past and may do so again in the future. Everyone is human. But as long as you are progressing towards this structure, as I have found myself to do so the older and more discriminating I get, the better man you will become.

The 1-10 Scale

In what will be the topic of one of my future articles, realize that people’s scales are all over the place and should be taken with a grain of salt. There is huge amount of subjectivity (blondes vs. brunettes; tits vs. ass; slavic vs. latin flavor; etc.). Additionally, experience plays a role. The guy who’s never had sex will rate a five closer to an eight than the casting agent for a model photoshoot who sees quality day in and day out.

That said, I have yet to find a more accurate scale—and one I use myself—than our fellow writer Tuthmosis’s 1-10 scale. You can read the quick article for a full analysis of the scale. To simplify matters for purposes of this article, I will copy Tuth’s scale below for reference:

0: No Such Thing. Has a dick.

1: Hideously Unattractive. A monster. Disfigured or irretrievably mutilated. Has two heads, is missing an eye, etc.

2: Very Unattractive. Disproportionate, morbidly obese.

3: Unattractive. Ugly, fat, and/or old.

4: Almost Bangable. But definitely doesn’t pass the boner test. Still not good-looking.

5: Merely Bangable. Barely passes the boner test. You’d be pretty embarrassed to be seen with her.

6: Almost Cute. She might be cute if one or two things were different, but they’re not. You may not be super-embarrassed to be seen with her, but you certainly wouldn’t be proud, and you definitely wouldn’t willingly bring her around to anything.

7: Solidly Cute. Zero embarrassment, even some nascent pride in being seen with her. You could bring her to things without looking bad, or losing any of the luster on your game.

8: Hot-Cute. Would be straight-up proud to be seen with her or bring her to things. This is often the sweet spot for long-term relationship material.

9: Smoking Hot. This is a girl who can easily monetize her beauty. You’re going out of your way to be seen with her.

10: Perfection. A theoretical abstraction that only exists in the laboratory.

Cheat Sheet Definitions:

At the end of each category I will list a quick cheat sheet. Just so we are all on the same page, here is my definition of each classification.

Cheat Sheet:

  • Long Term Relationship (“LTR”): Over three months of actual dating. To her and the world objectively, you are exclusive. (I will withhold my thoughts on male monogamy for now.)
  • Short Term Relationship (“STR”): Up to three months of actual dating. To the extent she is seeing other men, you are her number one.
  • Fuck Buddy: You see each other for sex, but occasionally grab a drink or a sandwich. You may watch a movie together. She may join you out at a bar with your friends here and there. 
  • Booty Call: The only times you see each other are strictly for sex, and never outside each other’s residences.
  • One Night Stand: Self-explanatory.

Of course when you get to fuck buddy and higher categories, personality does matter. After all even in the fuck buddy category you will be spending some non-coital time with this person. However I want to stress again that for this article, it’s just an aesthetic analysis; personality and other factors is a discussion meant for another time.

The 1 – 4 Group:

If a girl is in the 1-4 group (I am not even going to discuss the 0 category), then she only can be mentioned in two scenarios. First, if you have had sex with only 1-4 girls in your life, I won’t judge you if you go dumpster diving to get some experience. Most careers start with demeaning, shitty work before you get to the point of where you want to be. Once you’ve had sex with 5 girls, there’s no reason to go below a 5 on the scale. Except…

If you are blackout drunk. And I mean to the point of zero recollection, not the typical overindulgence in alcohol that most people engage in on weekends. I’ll even demonstrate with a personal example. One night in Vegas, I suited up and went out to a club. The first girl I hit on took to me, and she was gorgeous. We danced, made out and were ready to enjoy each other’s company for the night before the mother hen of the group showed up and whisked her away.

Distraught, and as a younger lad, I turned to more drinks to quell my disappointment. Heavily inebriated now, I found a new girl with a great body but housing a face mimicking that of Abe Vigoda. Made out with her, and then lost her. However, my downward progression of that night did not end there.

More alcohol, and I go dark. Wake up in the morning on my bed, naked, condom wrapper on the floor. I only have flashes of the night after the Abe Vigoda girl, akin to those an alien abductee would have following some experimentation as portrayed in a sci-fi novel. My friends tell me I left with a beast, a 3 at most. I have no recollection other than a flash of blonde hair, and a millisecond of fornicative memory.

Three hours later at lunch, my boxers fall out of my pants as I’m sitting hungover as all hell eating a burger. That’s how messed up I was that even the morning after not only did I not realize I had no underwear on, but didn’t notice it was dangling loose in my pants. If you truly have no conception of consciousness, you get a pass. But don’t make it a habit.

As a man who respects himself you should not be engaging these girls in any way other than the rare cases identified above. Society and I beg of you.

Cheat Sheet:

  • Long Term Relationship: No
  • Short Term Relationship: No
  • Fuck Buddy: No
  • Booty Call: No
  • One Night Stand: Rarely

The 5:

The all-common 5. We seem them everywhere. On the streets, at the bars, in Whole Foods buying sugar-free muffins. Similar to the 1-4 range, their engagement should be in only certain scenarios. Almost always a result of excessive, yet not blackout amounts of alcohol. The “last call at the club” slut coupled with a dry streak. While not set aside to only rare occasions as allowed by its predecessor category, it should not be made a habit.

Your friends will poke fun at you, but will forgive you. Everyone has fallen off the path once or twice. But always remember that you can, and will, do better than her. She is just a five, and as Tuthmosis accurately describes, “merely bangable.” Is that what you want, a girl that just “merely” reaches the level of something so pursued after by the male sex ? Exactly.

Sometimes you have been driving down a highway for a very long time and need to urinate badly. Of course we would like to pull over at the Ritz Carlton and enter a golden-tiled bathroom with scents of lavender and Egyptian cloth hand towels, but that is not always an option. Sometimes the dinky gas station conveniently located just off the exit will have to do.

Cheat Sheet:

  • Long Term Relationship: No
  • Short Term Relationship: No
  • Fuck Buddy: No
  • Booty Call: No
  • One Night Stand: Sometimes

The 6:

Most girls you meet will fall into either this category or the next one (the 7). As long as it is not the only type of girl you engage, nobody will give you shit for hitting on or even banging a 6. When your buddy asks you what happened when you left with the 6 you just met at the bar, you will answer that you banged her. In essence, there is no shame in the 6 under certain scenarios.

Most would agree they are bangable, but not to the point of taking them out for dinners or bringing them around your friends consistently. If you are bored on a Wednesday night text her to come over. If you are out with your buddies at a bar and she wants to meet you there first instead of directly to your apartment, worse things can happen than you conceding on a one-time basis.

But note, this is actually the most dangerous category. The 6s are the most likely to finagle you into a relationship. The sheer number of 6s means you are bound to run into some that have a decent personality, or amazing blowjob skills. Your male hamster will start spinning, thinking about how her tight body overlooks the weird haircut and acne she has. Or how her cute face overrides her baby fat.

She satisfies you during booty calls to the point where you think, hey why not let me go grab a sandwich with her. It starts as one or two times which is arguably acceptable, but can quickly lead to increased rendezvous that should not be undertaken. There is no wrong or right answer to having a 6 as a fuck buddy. Just tread carefully my friends…

Cheat Sheet:

  • Long Term Relationship: No
  • Short Term Relationship: No
  • Fuck Buddy: Sure I guess
  • Booty Call: Yes
  • One Night Stand: Yes

The 7:

Seven’s are the sweet spot, and the type of girls you take pleasure in meeting. They are cute girls. You enjoy looking at them, you don’t mind introducing them to your friends, and don’t mind being seen out with them. If you take them home the same night, while you don’t go around bragging about it you also don’t mind giving yourself a virtual pat on the back and slight smirk the next morning. With the ever-increasing number of 6s and below in today’s world, the 7s and higher become more of a commodity.

And because they are cute, they qualify to be placed in all but the long term relationship category. Short term relationships are great with a 7. Find one that you like, and because she is a 7 she can keep your brain aroused enough for a few months to let you take a break from the efforts required for actively gaming girls. The 7 is cute enough that you don’t feel like you are missing out by taking a month or two off from the chase.

As to why they are not suited for a long term relationship, the reason is simple—there is just better out there in the world. There are 8s and above. So why, even though she is a cute girl and may have the personality traits to go along with it, settle for a 7? It’s a very very tough thing to advise against and even harder to put in practice. I’ve fallen into the trap myself several times.

The answer of course lies in something that most men have yet to experience. The feeling of dating an 8, which is exponentially better (though admittedly harder to pull off) than a 7. I’ve dabbled in this before and it does make a difference. Try to keep the 7s at bay for the short term relationships and everything below. Instead, use the time you would put LTR’ing a 7 into bettering yourself for the 8.

Cheat Sheet:

  • Long Term Relationship: No
  • Short Term Relationship: Yes
  • Fuck Buddy: Yes
  • Booty Call: Yes
  • One Night Stand: Yes

The 8, 9 and 10:

When I talk about this last category, I’m talking about a true 8 or higher. Not some internet jockey’s description of the “HB8” he took home from the club after displaying alpha game and throwing out six negs and push-pull tactics. People have a tendency to overinflate the rankings. A piece of advice—don’t trust anyone’s rankings until you see it for yourself in person.

Alright, enough of my rant. The last set can be grouped together because these girls are not only a pleasure to the eyes, but check off the “YES” mark on all the categories on the cheat sheet. Nobody says no to having a one night stand, booty call, or fuck buddy that is an 8 or higher. And in fact, this may be easier to achieve than getting an 8 into a relationship. Party girls and college girls for example are more likely to fall into the 8 category based solely on looks, yet they are more likely to engage in these casual arrangements based purely on sex.

As for the relationships, assuming the 8+ has the personality traits to go with it—and I realize that is a big assumption—you are not doing yourself a disservice of even a long-term relationship if that is in fact something you actually want and desire. Most men even in the manosphere, despite not wanting to admit it, still hold out the desire for that unicorn—the 8 or a 9 who is not only that in looks but personality too. So should you find it, kudos to you and I certainly won’t fault you. (As to whether such unicorns exist, that’s for another time…)

Cheat Sheet:

  • Long Term Relationship: Yes
  • Short Term Relationship: Yes
  • Fuck Buddy: Yes
  • Booty Call: Yes
  • One Night Stand: Yes

Why Should I Care?

A valid question always arises in this discussion. Who cares if I take a 6 out for drinks or dinner? What if I want to? Sure, go ahead. But from my own growth as a man, especially in this past year, I realized how much more valuable time is than a fresh notch. Are you going to date the 6 long term? If so, then I don’t know what to tell you. If not, which is the appropriate response, then what do you value more: a new notch or more time to yourself? If she wants to come over and fuck, great tell her to come right over. But don’t waste your time on something that is below average.

A lot of this stems from what I consider one of the biggest realizations a man can make with respect to game and women—and that is the abundance mentality. Once you realize there is not only a sea of women out there, but a fucking massive ocean’s worth you will understand that if this 6 doesn’t want to come right over and fuck, another one will. Save your time and efforts of dating for a girl that brings you the visual pleasure you require, meeting the minimum aesthetics necessary for a relationship. At that point you can then determine if she has the other qualities sufficient to engage in such a relationship.

A Message To The Ladies:

If I offended you, I really don’t care. The fact of the matter is the old adage “it’s what’s inside that counts” only comes into play once your outside meets a necessary minimum standard.

Aside from some sort of facial deformity, in almost all cases it is easy to elevate yourself to at least a 7 on the scale if not objectively, then at least for a group of men subjectively. And once at a 7 you can work on your domestic, feminine, sexual and personality skills to qualify for a being a higher catch. Anyway, here’s a quick and dirty for the ladies on elevating to a 7:

  • Step One: Don’t be fat;
  • Step Two: Don’t cut your hair short;
  • Step Three: Put on heels and a dress;
  • Step Four: Use makeup (as necessary) and adhere to hygiene.

It really can be that simple. As a Ukrainian girl once told me, “There is no such thing as an ugly girl, just a lazy one.”

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