Dating Mail Order Brides

February 6th, 2013

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Don’t Believe The Lies About Foreign Brides

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Roosh made a recent post about American Women who cant compete with foreign women and referenced a mail order bride event. As I was reading through the response to the article I noticed what has become a rather typical pattern in the comments. For some reason, the minute anyone mentions the words “foreign brides” or “mail order brides”, there is a mini descent into madness where all common sense and reason gets thrown out of the window.

The responses vary, but the common theme is that these women are nothing more than gold digging, green card chasing whores who will divorce these men the first chance they get. According to the majority of respondents, these women are laying traps to land suckers, betas, and whales. The belief that they may actually be the marriage minded, feminine women, that these countries tend to produce in droves, rarely enters the equation, they are just labelled mercenaries who will be out the door the minute they get the chance. What then almost always follows are anecdotal accounts of people who know scores of Russian, Eastern European or foreign women who are foreign brides that divorced local men after they brought them in. I would love to know where these guys meet all these divorced bitches with their new green cards, but the minute you raise this topic everyone knows like 300 of them it seems.

So I thought what the hell, let me see if I can drum up some stats and get to the bottom of it. I have seen statistics before that show its the exact opposite of what everyone normally says, yet the spazfest that people always throw when this subject comes up made me wonder just how true it all was.

Now I believe the vast majority of women looking for husbands are genuine given what I know of the cultures and the places I have traveled to over the years. I think because these women are more traditional and conservative, a decent guy will probably stand far less chance of divorce too. I also know that these women tend to be far more logical than the degenerate whores Western men deal with on a daily basis too, so the women would be less prone to divorcing unless the guy was abusive, a really poor provider or an absolute loser. They are prone to hypergamy just like all women, but its no where near as severe as it is with the average western slut.

I also believe that the foreign passport hunting, gold digging whore is one of the biggest myths out there. Sure, there are going to be horror stories and these women do exist, I just doubt that the horror stories are more frequent than the average divorce hell 50% of most Western men will go through. And I think that the majority of guys who end up going through hell with a foreign woman tend to meet these women in their home countries, instead of meeting those marriage minded foreign women in the woman’s home country.

Lastly, I always believed western women in general are threatened by this development, resorting to mindless accusations of exploitation in an effort to shame this behavior before it gains any mainstream traction.

The first study I wanted to share was one that used to be on Wikipedia. Used to be. Someone has decided to remove it, and I think it was removed because for some reason, the original USCIS study was removed. I know it was there because I have shared it in the past, and any search on the web for the extract below turns up countless websites that cite the study as a legitimate government source. I say this as I place the tinfoil hat on my head, but clearly its the sort of information that does not suit current policy makers and legislators that are pushing for restrictions on foreign brides.

Here it is:

The United States Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) reports that “…marriages arranged through [mail order bride] services would appear to have a lower divorce rate than the nation as a whole, fully 80 percent of these marriages having lasted over the years for which reports are available.” The USCIS also reports that “… mail-order bride and e-mail correspondence services result in 4,000 to 6,000 marriages between U.S. men and foreign brides each year.”

80% of the marriages have been successful.

This is not some guy bringing back his foreign wife after meeting her there on a trip or holiday. Its not guys who were expats somewhere and returned home with a wife after living there. These are outright MAIL ORDER BRIDES. These are guys going onto the internet or using services to find women to marry from day one. Zero romance and courtship, straight to business, I’ll-get-to-know-you-once-we-are-married type marriages.

Eighty percent, and these are mail order brides, these are not women they met and gradually built a relationship with before they took the plunge. They are going into this with the intention of marrying them from the first meeting most of the time.

Next up is the Centre for Immigration Studies who again state a 20% divorce rate with mail order bride marriages. A separate organisation comes to the same conclusions the Immigration Department did, focusing on statistics gathered from foreign countries and agencies as they try to build a picture. Again, we see the same statistic: 80% of the marriages have been successful. Now granted these are statistics based on the USA in particular, and I was curious to see what the situation was in other Western countries with high divorce rates.

The next study was conducted in Switzerland. The white paper is available but its long, so I just share the web extract. Again, we see the same outcome, where divorce rates are far lower when the foreign women are not “Western”. Ironically, they also track the divorce rate between Swiss women and foreign men, which clocks in at 80% failure rates.

The statistical office of Switzerland has published some more detailed statistics: Note that to draw any conclusions, the divorce rate of mail-order marriages must be compared to the divorce rate of domestic marriages. In 1999, the divorce rate for domestic marriages (Swiss married to Swiss) in Switzerland were at a record high of 50%. In the same year (1999), marriages with foreigners are comparatively better: Marriages between Swiss and German or Italian women have a comparatively better divorce rate: 40%. Marriages between Brazilian or Thai women and Swiss turned out to be more durable than expected, the divorce rate reached the low rate of 30%. Fantastically low divorce rates were reached at marriages with women from Colombia (20%). Marriages with women from the former USSR reached a rate of 15%; however, it must be noted that marriages between Swiss and Russians boom at the moment, and that the divorce rate is not that much meaningful, because the divorce rate rises with a time-lag. However, there are also marriages between Swiss and foreigners where the divorce rate is worse than the domestic rate: Marriages between Swiss and women from the Dominican Republic tend to work very badly, the divorce rate reached catastrophic sixty percent. Similarly, but not quite as bad, the divorce rate in marriages between Swiss and Philippine women reached 45%

So 85% success rate with women from the former USSR for the Swiss. The Swiss divorce rate is approaching 50%, yet these marriages are clocking in at 85% success rates.

Where is the passport hunting, divorcing mercenary everyone is talking about? Here we have arguably the two most desirable passports in the world on offer, and the success rate for these marriages is clocking in at rates that rival the divorce rates of the 50′s. Which shows that not only is there a complete misconception about the nature of these marriages, but there is a misconception about foreign women who marry western men under these sorts of arrangement. Many are simply conservative, traditional, marriage minded women looking for a husband and a better life.

This is supported by yet another major study called Negotiated Nuptials: A Transnational Analysis of the International Marriage Broker Industry and the Russian ‘Mail-Order Bride’. It goes into great detail proving how mail order brides don’t suffer abuse like the feminists are saying they do. At the same time, the research concludes that the vast majority of women looking for foreign husbands are genuine in their search. This study even won some feminist award, which shows the levels of hypocrisy. So not only does it prove that the feminists are exaggerating the rates of abuse, it also goes on to show how many of these arrangements are not only genuine but successful too.

Which point towards an agenda driving this misconception, and its an agenda that has even forced through legislation in the USA called IMBRA. Using nothing more than a few horror stories of abuse (which in itself could be lower than the average too for all we know), legislators have been lobbied into submission and inevitably complicate the entire process in an effort to slow things down. Men are put through substantial background checks and treated like absolute criminals simply because they have decided to seek foreign wives through non-traditional methods. Despite the fact that all parties involved are consenting adults, this legislation has been pushed through without any major study or even widely available statistics to justify the law. What statistics we do have shows the complete opposite of the perception many have.

Another thing that that turned up through my search were some ridiculous representations by feminists and the media too. The more I dug into it the more blatant it seemed. Clearly this is seen as a major threat to the harpies, because the lengths they are going to are absurd. The funniest example that I came across was a story about an English guy who started a marriage agency. He said in his interview that men are looking for feminine, traditional wives who are unspoiled by feminism, and he introduces them to each other.

This is the response from the female journalist about the whole thing, who equates it to human trafficking and slavery because these women tend to be housewives:

However, couples can get around this obstacle by claiming they met through other avenues. There also tends to be little enforcement of IMBRA when the agencies are based outside the U.S. (Hand-In-Hand, for example, is registered in St. Kitts.) “The mail-order bride industry is a softer version of human trafficking,” says Sonia Ossorio, executive director of the New York City chapter of the National Organization for Women. Ossorio also acknowledges that some relationships work out—but perhaps not in a way that would please Betty Friedan. “A lot of people who are attracted to it are just looking for a woman who’s docile and obedient,” she says.

For some companies, such submissiveness is a selling point. Hand-In-Hand’s website trumpets the fact that its females are “unspoiled by feminism.” Company founder Weiner argues this form of chauvinism—like the mail-order bride business itself—is economically motivated. “You take a beautiful woman from the Czech Republic and you bring her into your home, she does all your cooking and cleaning and ironing,” he says. “At the end of the day, the service is free.” Hand-In-Hand estimates the potential savings of a homemaking wife at $150 per week.

Housewives are now slaves. A man who marries a traditional woman who stays at home to manage the household is now regarded seen as a slaver. These are the kind of people that not only have a public platform to spread their filth, they see press in major publications like Business Week. To make matters worse, the same article is then republished, and when it is the headlines are a complete misrepresentation of the interview and business as a whole

Here is the first headline:

The Mail-Order-Bride Trade Is Flourishing

Here is the second headline on the same article in a different publication

Former I-Banker’s Mail Order Bride Business Sells Women Who Are “Unspoiled By Feminism”

Here is the third headline

Former Investment Banker’s Human-Trafficking Business Is Booming

Laughable. Frikken laughable.

There is very little research that has been done on marriage between foreigners and nationals and their success rates for some reason. Seems like no one wants to touch it, or what is more likely, they cant get it through peer review. I think they would make for very interesting reading and I would not be surprised if we see stats very similar to what happened in Switzerland or what was uncovered by the USCIS. Not only were the marriages between foreign women and local men more successful, marriages between local women and foreign men were a disaster. Not the sort of thing feminized universities and organizations want to see published, thats for sure.

It has been effective too, because not only have the media done a fantastic job of convincing most people that these women are probably only after a green card, the men who bring them over tend to be abusive too. Its what drove legislation called IMBRA, which has made it incredibly difficult for American men to marry mail order brides now.

Now, what does that say about the situation as a whole?

Can you imagine what sort of man resorts to a mail order bride? While I dont think its the case for all of them, I think in 95% of cases you are dealing with highly introverted guys who have always struggled with women. They are probably middle income to upper middle income, middle aged to elderly and either cant land a date or have been raped in divorce court already and are throwing the towel in. I also think that a lot of them will punch way above their weight, trying to marry women far too young or incredibly good looking women while they have very little going for them looks wise. I think that many dont understand the cultures of these women either, which makes it even harder on the marriage too. They are probably in the majority though decent guys just looking for companions.

So here we have average looking guys with moderate incomes and no ability with women who are still able not only marry hotter women than they would get at home, they are younger, more feminine and traditional too. They are landing far better women than they could if they stuck it out at home.

The biggest farce of all? 80% of these arrangements are actually working according to statistics, while the rest of their countrymen will see 50% of their marriages end in divorce and family court rape.

Now I know there are guys who marry foreign women that end up taking them to the cleaners. The thing is, these guys are being taken to the cleaners far less often than they would be if they married local women. And if they did take a chance on a local chick, she would be no where near the same quality a foreign wife would be. Not in looks or what she was prepared to bring to the table as a traditional wife.

I am also willing to bet that many of these “foreign women” who everyone tells horror stories about just so happen to be women who immigrated here when young or were sent to study in Western universities and colleges, and after a few years in our indoctrination camps they come out the other end far more fucked up than when they went in. They are not a complete representation of foreign women because their exposure to our culture is far deeper than someone who moved and lived there for a long period of time.

Maybe its time for men as a whole to sit back and think these things through a little more before jumping to the conclusions they do.

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About the Author

is a bitter, angry, misogynist with a small penis and highly insecure infatuation with contact sports. Refusing to man up and contribute positively to society, Harry travels the world taking advantage of poor, third world women while he swindles innocent businessmen in the boardrooms of numerous developing countries. Outright intimidated by sassy, intelligent, super awesome modern women, Harry is an ignorant bigot of epic proportions that mortifies the cultural sensibilities of any typical progressive westerner. He likes to share his views with complete strangers as he comes to terms with the constant shame he feels. Deep down he really just wants someone to actually like him.

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  • danish

    i think we need to promote this

    Marriage 3.0!

  • prepman

    RIGHT ON!

    American women just don’t want to get it it, because the research refute their ridiculous feminazi ideas.

    Funny, there doesn’t seem to be a study on how foreign men are coming to America to find mail order brides.

    This country has managed to export many things to the rest of the world from western style to democracy and our social problems — but not our women. It’s really any wonder why?

    • Beidas

      Polite, cultured,educated men do come to America and find brides – it’s called a University.

      A lot of them are happy to find a woman who isn’t a dependent manipulative baby machine like all the gals back home.

      • Harry

        Yep, and with only a 50% chance of losing their house and kids to those “cultured” American women, they must lining up in droves!

      • prepman

        LOL.

        Nope. They get their 2nd rate, overpriced education subsidized by their gubermenets and our own education system, then take that knowledge back to their home countries.

        Having actually worked (work: n. something men do while women troll Facebook, tweet, watch tv, play with their iPhones and grow fat) with a good number of foreigners who’ve come here for University, I can tell you they aren’t taking home brides.

      • thedarkaquarian

        Really?…lets see..it cost tens of thousands of dollars for an american to travel overseas to meet a woman, go out of dates with her in her country, buy an engagement ring, hire an immigration attorney to process her visa, purchase her airline ticket, plan her wedding, and marry her.. only educated successful men can even afford such an endevor. I graduated from a university where 25% of the student population where international student..none of the men married an american woman they only fucked them.

      • Bogart

        No, they come to American University, spend four years in carnal bliss banging all the no-good degenerate American whores for free. Then after they have collected all the goods they came to leech out of us, they return home with a subsidized degree and drained balls, to find a good wife.

      • Beidas

        Harry – an education makes you less likely to divorce

        Prep man – they don’t take the brides home, they stay!!!

        Not all of them of course….but over the years I’ve known 20 or so foreign grooms

        And geez you guys have a hard time accepting that turnabout is fair play…

      • По реке

        Having gone to a large university with a considerable percentage of foreign students it’s obvious you’re full of it…Chinese, Indian, Middle Eastern, African, etc students very rarely get into relationships with American women, much less marry them.

        Also, look into how much prior sexual partners, shared housework and other charming offerings of America’s “modern marriage” contribute to divorce. It’s not pretty, I’ll tell you that.

      • Beidas

        IIO PEKE

        You’re the one who doesn’t get it…the US is not allowing in massive numbers of foreign students out of some PC attempt at ‘diversity’ – it’s because we don’t graduate enough students in STEM fields and need to poach on the best students from other countries.
        A lot of those guys dont leave. And they don’t always import a wifey from home either.

      • По реке

        Many of them are staying, many of them aren’t, but very few of them are dating American women.

      • Anonymous

        +1 По реке

        Those STEM undergrad and grad students who are on student visas from China, India, central Africa, Egypt, etc., are hardly pulling hot college tail.

        They try. But when they approach at college bars, they have horrible game and go down in flames. Language/accent barriers, lack of muscular fitness, fashion sense that doesn’t suit the norm, and tendency to travel in wolfpacks of 6 other dudes from the same motherland don’t help the situation.

        If they have anything happening with girls, those guys usually wind up doing a little dating with a girl students at the same school who comes from the same country. But most of the time, those dudes go through horrible dry spells.

  • Edward Thatch

    Great article. The comments are going to be goooooood. Heh.

    By the way, your bio cracked me up. I may steal a portion of it.

    • Shawn

      Stealing his bio for my tombstone.

  • christpuncher

    Jesus, good article.

    It’s so obvious that statistics and science are being manipulated for political reasons. Scientist, being the ultimate beta males, are so EASILY forced into doing quack experiments that produce results like “Study debunks notion that men and women are psychologically distinct” http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/02/04/study-debunks-notion-that-men-and-women-are-psychologically-distinct/

    But yet,are kept away, by shaming and removing all funding and legitimacy, from topics like foreign brides, single motherhood, the origins or gayness, anti-global warming etc.

  • Anonymous

    Interesting but there’s an angle that I have witnessed personally that is not addressed here. My wife used to work with several mail order Russian and Ukrainian brides. While I never heard the word “divorce” used, I only heard one of them ever say anything positive about her husband. The rest were disdainful of their husbands, most seemed to be involved in affairs, and two of them spoke openly about thinking about killing their husbands or having them whacked. I realize this is just a personal experience and observation of a limited number of mail order brides, but I was taken aback by the venom I saw in this particular group of women, most of whom seemed to be married to nice, unassuming, socially retarded computer programmers.

    • Harry

      What a load of absolute nonsense. This is exactly the kind of rubbish that inspired my post in the first place. Its nothing more than yet another anecdotal account of someone, who knew someone, who just so happens to know or have worked/lived/been friends with “several” mail order brides.

      Think about this logically for a second and try to understand my skepticism.

      Its not like mail order brides are common as it is, let alone mail order brides from Russia or the Ukraine. The vast majority actually come from South America and Asia, not Eastern Europe and Russia. Amazingly though, the foreign brides people almost always speak of happen to be Russian – just like in the movies. Funny that.

      They also must just so happen to be reading the same advertisements for the same jobs at the same companies/stores in the same towns and cities and all managed to get a job at the same place. What a fantastic coincidence that is. Maybe there is some sort of secret underground community of mail order brides where they help each other land jobs and plan murderous assassinations of their husbands together too?

      I have no idea why women are so offended by men going abroad for women. If these guys are such losers, what are you worried about girls? Why are you so threatened by this? Why the need to make up stories like this?

      And if you are a guy, what the hell do you care if these guys have decided to take another path and what do you have to gain by lying through your teeth?

      Amazingly, this report from this anonymous “concerned citizen” is not a horror story about divorce and ass rape in family court. No no, this report does not question that the marriages last, this one acknowledges that they last but that they are just very unhappy instead.

      Sure thing.

      • Anonymous

        Not offended, and not afraid. And, admittedly, not packing any empirical evidence – just relating my own personal experience with six or seven Ukrainian and Russian mail-order brides. I am a man, by the way; I thought my reference to my wife would have been a tip-off but in today’s society who can tell. And I don’t give a shit what other men do, but I’m not “lying through my teeth.” I witnessed what I witnessed. If you don’t like anonymous posters on your comments boards, you’re obviously in a position to fix that.

        Now, as far as what I saw, and as I stated, one of these couples seemed really happy. The rest, not so much. These girls had grown up in cultures where masculinity was highly valued, and had been sold a load of shit about being married off to some wealthy American. They found that the guys they were married off to actually were not very wealthy by American standards and that these guys lacked the masculinity they wanted in a man. So, they were unhappy, some fucked around, and a couple openly talked about having their husbands offed. Is this the norm? Hell if I know. But the women that I knew clearly weren’t what I would view as devoted, happy wives – and what’s the point of marriage (even if divorce is completely off the table) if you’re not happy and your wife is screwing other guys behind your back? A mail-order bride may be a FANTASTIC option for many American men seeking to avoid divorce, but mail-order brides are still women and guys without game are still guys without game.

      • J.M.

        Well said Anonymous, specially the last part “A mail-order bride may be a FANTASTIC option for many American men seeking to avoid divorce, but mail-order brides are still women and guys without game are still guys without game.”

        Americans are funny bunch of people (sometimes) but regardless of their social standing most are just clueless. Guess too many decades sheltered from reality.

      • http://www.PartyTravelSexLove.com Party Travel Sex Love

        Harry, your article sounds like it came off a marriage agency website. Do you work for a marriage agency. I have been in long relationships with women from Ukraine and Southeast Asia. I would never marry one from either place after what I know now. Anonymous is pretty close to what I’ve seen. First FSU countries have an 80% divorcee rate. Not to mention FSU, Philippines, and Thailand have believe lying is a correct way to do business. Good luck if you want to marry them. I no longer have a desire to.
        http://partytravelsexlove.com/2012/10/02/beautiful-girls-just-waiting-for-you-get-real/

    • Beidas

      Anon – I work in IT and that’s pretty much what I have witnessed. They don’t divorce, but WOW the bitchery. Most of the guys are nice if awkward introverts, American society has no place for the shy, so logically enough they look elsewhere.

      • Mad Max

        Well yeah if you are a introverted beta IT professional of course your mail order bride is not going to be as happy if she had an Alpha husband. On the flip side though that beta dork is probably at least getting semi-regular sex and has something to bang when going on vacation. Beats the online porn and hookers he would be using if he did not have the mail order bride.

      • Samseau

        And American women don’t bitch?

      • Banger

        Well of course they bitch… that’s what women DO.

      • Dere

        Most mail order brides have reduced expectations. They are hoping for economic hyper gamy. They understand that they are not likely to get an alpha male. There is a free market exchange going on. A willing exchange.
        I don’t know how a woman can do it, but they do. I know exactly why a dorky incompetent computer nerd does it. It makes sense. I am man, and while I like the idea of a mail order bride because I detest feminism and like the check on it’s power, the actual men that do it give me the creeps. I flew to Russia and saw a fat gamer type dude on the plane with me. I didn’t speak to him, but I could just image that what he was traveling for. Don’t construe that to mean I feel sorry for the women. I don’t. They are entering into a bargain of their free will. In a laissez faire market both parties benefit. I am sure that the couples learn to love each other. The man because he is hitting a hot piece of ass that he otherwise wouldn’t have ever hit. The woman because she is being provided for better than she ever would have been in her home country.

  • Connery

    Don’t expect to marry anything young and pretty via the mail order bride services.

    • Roosh

      And how would you know this? Please tell us your mail order bride experience.

    • atila

      its a global market we are living in….and the fat western bitch has priced herself out of the market….ps. the foreign quality is also better

  • http://www.realmikaelryan.blogspot.com Mikael

    This is pretty accurate. The few mail order bride couples that I’ve met are married with an extremely loyal situation. Your bio is also awesome, I’d like to see someone try and troll that.

  • Adam

    Does anyone know the percentage of virgins in the foreign brides industry?

    • Old Horndog

      Hard statistics there: 0%.

      • Stuki Moi

        Depends on whether you include Muslims or perhaps other religious groups. They often specifically import “certified” virgins because they don’t trust their sisters raised and indoctrinated in the West.

  • Wilson

    And of course the primary reason Western women get married is for money, under an arrangement where she can literally put the man in a cage if he doesn’t earn. That’s what slavery actually looks like

  • Freckled

    I grew up in a small village in western Germany where everyone knew everyones business. 3 different men went to former Yugoslavia, now Croatia and brought back 3 women whom they married within the next months. That was nearly 40 years ago. All three were known for their beauty and feminity. One couple went through a bitter divorce after 20 years of marriage. The other two are still happily married.
    The odds of a good and happy marriage with women from non-western contries are far better.
    In some forums you get the impression that you just have to get a non-western bride and everything will turn out fine. Most have unrealistic ideas, get burned and then write the bitter comments you mentioned.

  • Paul

    I’m quite happily married to a non-norteamericana. Funny thing is, she’s happily married to me. And I can tell you first-hand all of the ‘subtle’ fem-shaming that I get from the women at the office whenever they ask me about my marriage is as pathetic as it is predictable. And I work in a place that is pro-diversity, acceptance, and all that other crap.

    This tells me the effect of MGTOW is huge. I wouldn’t trust them to herd cats, but the fact is that many of these women are married to poor sods, simply because that’s all that was available for them at the market. The impact of a guy outside of this feminazi OPEC-like cartel is big, and I see this simply by the reaction of teh wiminz around me. The fact that I have not manned up and married one of the local sluts bites deep.

    I’d also like to note the corollary to what has been said above: 80% of marriages of men to foreign brides succeed, while 80% of female marriages to foreign husbands fail. What does that say about the likely reasons behind the 50% divorce rate nationally?

    • Banger

      “This feminazi OPEC-like cartel is big, and… the fact that I have not manned up and married one of the local sluts bites deep”

      In 2005 I saw a documentary on French TV the followed one dude (nice-enough fellow) as he went through the process of meeting and marrying his Belorussian bride. The short and un-controversial episode was followed by a discussion featuring a 3-woman panel…

      They ripped him to shreds… It was eye-opening for me.

  • Doggo

    A family friend married a woman from the Philippines. While there have been a few cultural differences to resolve–she came from a tiny village with no running water, and is still grappling with the nuances of American life– they seem pretty happy. (Although he does wish she’d serve rice a little less often.)

  • The Renegade

    Fantastic Article.

    Marriage rates of Western Men and foreign wives are amazingly high,
    while western women and foreign men are abysmal, need there be any other statistic ???

    When will the Western cultural hell correct itself, it’s statistics like this that make me think western culture must be utterly destroyed because despite evidence in every which direction to the absurdity and disgusting nature of western women, the majority, INCLUDING western men, legal code and cultural norms still seem to accept and enjoy wallowing in the meaningless filth they have engineered for themselves…

    • Stuki Moi

      Western “culture” will be destroyed. What’s sad is that unless Western men wake the f up, with it will go also the positive sides. Afghanistan is great in many ways, but there are some Western traits and traditions that possibly could improve the place a bit. But unless the West put up a bit of a fight, and demonstrate something worthy of preservation, the baby will be thrown out with the bathwater.

  • Uncle Elmer

    Thanks for the supporting data Harry. I like your honest “about the author” byline also.

    No western woman can cook like my wife, as featured in a “A Man Wants a Wife, Not a Co-Worker”. I eat like that twice a day, every day. For breakfast I will make toast out of the bread I make in my bread machine, though occaisonally she makes some viet breakfast delicacy also. I could not keep her from cooking if I tried. She spends hours researching and trying new recipes, especially if she notices I like something. A few days ago she made a half-dozen batches of peanut brittle until she got it exactly perfect. I had to scold her not to throw out the slightly imperfect batches.

    She is not here for a “green card” or passport. She is here for me. She loves her country and does not like this hostile land. I advised men considering foreign brides to take this into account and try to find some supporting culture here for her. Many cities such as mine have large vietnamese populations and this is a big help to keep her from feeling isolated.

    Often I have had viet men and women smile and ask “How do you like it?” (having a viet wife?). They know and are proud of the way a vietnamese woman takes care of her husband. And it is a very simple reason : the margin of survival there is very thin and always has been. A woman’s family, not the government, is the core of her life support. She lavishes care on her husband because it is HER man, and she will do everything to ensure his well-being.

    When she gets out of line, I can admonish her to “obey your husband” or “I am going to have a talk with your mother” or “you are not being a good wife”. And it works! She likes to hear this. Of course I follow it up with a concession to be a better or more understanding husband, but the thing is she wants the bedrock of husband-wife marital responsibilities and not some nonsense about her being “empowered” or “equal”.

    I repeat, no western female can cook like my wife. Any man-haters who arrive to disparage our foreign brides should be pointed to that essay and asked to provide evidence of their similar cooking talents.

    P.S. I am working at a technical “start-up”. The last two guys I worked for in this capacity had foreign brides.

    • Freckled

      The two happily married couples i wrote about: the women were sisters and lived only a short car drive away from each other.
      Otherwise they would have felt very isolated and that would have led to a equally miserable marriage.

    • ASF

      I really think the cultural support is key. These women still very much regard their home country as home, and they will continue to have strong ties to whatever country they are from because of family and culture. Thus, if you are living in Nowheresville, USA, where “culture” is a shitty Chinese restaurant, it will make her lonely and unhappy.

    • BB

      Uncle Elmer, have you faced any hostility from Viet men in the USA or Vietnam? In Thailand, “farang” are frowned upon.

      • Uncle Elmer

        No I have not. When you are in their culture, act like a gentleman.

      • BB

        Men are usually protective of THEIR women. Don’t they resent you for “stealing” one of their women?

      • По реке

        I have to give a +1 to what Uncle Elmer said…Thais often have a somewhat negative view of “farangs” because a lot of tourists conduct themselves like they’re at a college party 24/7…but if you act in a dignified manner Thais will respect you.

  • Hugh G. Rection

    It’s interesting how personal women take it when you say you aren’t interested in them. You can say you don’t want to marry at all or you don’t want to marry an American women, and sure enough they’ll start hurling insults, all the while claiming no woman would ever want to get married to you (so why should they give a cunt’s hair?). They are completely incapable of dealing with any kind of rejection, it’s always the butthurt “YOU DON’T GET TO REJECT ME! I REJECTED YOU FIRST!” foaming at the mouth reaction.

    I noticed the same when breaking up with a woman, many go ballistic.

  • bacon

    good article. in the US if things while your foreign bride dont work out you can be on the hook for social services the state provides to her in the first few years following your breakup. these expenses depending on your wealth can be significant and total up to 100k. while i am a big fan of foreign women i would advice men in western countries to just date immigrant women already living in your country. in the case of the US your best bet are big cities and most of the southwest which is full of illegal mexican women who would love to date american men.

    • Anonymous

      Hey Bacon –

      do you have any sources/cites that the state will go after the husband for social services provided to the ex?

  • Sam Spade

    Hypergamy exists at all levels. Women don’t like it when it works AGAINST them, or rather when men who understand it exploit it to their benefit.

  • ASF

    A core of womanhood is to be desired by men; when this fails, she fails. And she does not like it.

    • Dillon

      Thats the smartest shit anyone has said in this thread.

    • По реке

      This right here.

    • Ashley

      Brilliantly said

  • Uncle Elmer

    This is the video that pulled me into the world of Khmer Music Video, from which I have never recovered :

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S131fhnbsXA

    To get a glimpse of this astonishing culture, search “Khmer romvong playlist” or Sinn Sisamouth playlist” on youtube.

  • Yakob

    Harry, the point was not that the marriages break down but that the women cheat on their men while taking their money.

    This is

  • Yakob

    Harry, the point was not that the marriages break down but that the women cheat on their men while taking their money.

    This is particularly the case with big age gaps, I’ve even seen this with Muslim women that go out and get fucked when they get brought over here than go home and act like nuns.

    • Wilson

      And this is different from domestic women? Maybe they are too fat old and bitchy to find anyone to find anyone to fuck them by the time they settle for the beta bucks, but that is necessity not virtue.

  • Bogart

    “Ossorio also acknowledges that some relationships work out—but perhaps not in a way that would please Betty Friedan. “A lot of people who are attracted to it are just looking for a woman who’s docile and obedient,” she says.”

    What is the opposite of docile and obedient? Rowdy and rebellious. Who seeks a rebellious wife?!

    That is the equivalent of a woman saying “I am looking for a man who is masculine and a good provider.” and then being mercilessly ridiculed and shamed for it.

    Bitches Be Crazy.

  • Anonymous

    I just have seen the picture of the author of this article and it’s all clear now.

    Not even worth commenting.Lol

    • Samseau

      Link?

    • https://twitter.com/Flaweless Flaweless

      Troll

  • Bali

    I’ve had good experience on this subject from my upbringing and travel.

    Women are on the whole the same everywhere, like it or not. An average third world traditional woman is no more moral or ethical than any typical modern western woman. They both act in their own perceived best interest.

    The only difference lies in the environment. In a traditional culture, they must act traditional to have the best outcome. It would be very foolish for a woman in those cultures to openly date multiple guys since those cultures value low/no partner count.

    In the west partner count is irrelevent. Even a moderate looking woman can party in her 20s and easily land a Beta in her 30s. Divorce/cheating is encouraged and is no big deal.

    The point is, people act in a way that gets them the best outcome depending on the environment. You change the environment, their acts change.

    By all means marry abroad. Just don’t expect her to stay the same in western environment.

    • Shawn

      H-Y-P-E-R-G-A-M-Y

    • Anonymous

      That’s why you continue running game and don’t get lazy after you get married

    • J.M.

      FTW

  • PDX

    An actual researched, well-written (and proofread!), and insightful article on here. Finally.

  • 1

    -Why do you want to marry that much?So desperate for a pussy that you voluntarily agree to get into financial and emotional slavery?
    -Any relationship with a woman is a Betaisation on its own.Bringing a woman from 4000 miles away,arranging her life etc is tenfold Betaisation. I don’t think any woman would ever stay attracted to such Omega.
    -The statistics don’t cover period long enough for any reasonable conclusion.

    This site is just crazy shit really.I have never seen so many clueless AFCs in one place

    • Uncle Elmer

      I am so ashamed that people I don’t know or have never met or aren’t paying my rent pretend to think I am a “beta” for having a foreign wife. But that is in the sub-title of this essay; attempts by fems to discourage men from exploring alternatives to western females.I will keep that in mind next time I am pounding her tight ass or enjoying her cuisine.

      • 1

        Lol..in ur dreams hahaja.Women don’t let their husbands to let them fuck in the ass (unless you are blackmailing her somehow).The ass is for hunky alpha out there (a “girls night out” for a husband).

        Btw about cuisine.I actually have always resisted to let women cook for me.It’s number one trap and a short cut to domestication.No f*ng way I need another mummy in my life,I can take care of my needs.A woman is for fucking.

        But its apparently too much of a hard concept for some guys over here.

    • Anonymous

      Troll troll troll

  • http://0x0014.wordpress.com/ Twenty

    while i am a big fan of foreign women i would advice men in western countries to just date immigrant women already living in your country.

    Even better idea: Date foreign women in foreign countries. Also solves the problem of women not being happy when removed from their native cultures.

    • M

      seconded. if you don’t like western societies and all these other cultures are so much better, feel free to leave so we don’t have to listen to your incessant bitching.

      • http://0x0014.wordpress.com Twenty

        Ain’t no one forcing you to visit the site, toots.

      • driveallnight

        Shut up, Maya.

    • driveallnight

      This is the way. With my gf three years now, and still going good.

  • logicwontgetmelaid

    Very interesting and nuanced article. Not surprising that the law was passed to curb mail order brides; the leftists only have one tool in their bag: force. If they don’t like something, they will use it to ATTEMPT to reduce the behavior. Never works, but damn if they don’t keep trying.

    • Uncle Elmer

      What’s funny is the “mail-order bride” meme is effectively passe’ as any man with an internet connection can meet foreign women easily. The “IMBRA” requirements for visa processing only apply to people who met through marriage broker agencies.

      IMBRA is a cash cow for professional feminists who have zero interest in the welfare of the prospective husbands and brides, and every intention for getting wealthy through their busybody intrusion into the private lives of ordinary citizens.

      To avoid this nonsense simply meet your candidate brides online then travel to their country and meet them in person. You don’t need an agency to do this.

      Me, I met my wife at a coffeshop in Saigon. She had been studying English but had never spoken to a western person before…

  • Mark Minter

    I will admit it was probably one of my comments that lead to this post. But I came to my conclusions from reading posts on sites about foreign marriages. I don’t have any raw data. And I admit my views are self arrived and due to some defensive attitudes about marriage.

    I thank you for your clarification data. Data is the irrefutable truth.

    • ariseandexcel

      Always good to see a Mark Minter post even if it’s a driveby.

  • Roosh

    Lots of the comments here just prove the thesis of the post: people mouthing off on the catastrophes of foreign brides with ZERO personal experience. “I heard that” or “I have a friend of a friend that” or “I know a guy.”

    • 1

      Why don’t you get married to a foreign bride yourself ?

      • Uncle Elmer

        He probably will when he turns 50 and starts to think about settling down.

    • http://www.facebook.com/vincentumbe Vincent Muambi

      I agree with you Roosh. And I loved your article on why Toronto suck ass. LOL I grew up in Toronto and live a small town called Milton. You’d hate yourself for moving to Milton, trust me.

    • http://www.facebook.com/vincentumbe Vincent Muambi

      I agree with you Roosh. And I loved your article on why Toronto suck ass. LOL I grew up in Toronto and live a small town called Milton. You’d hate yourself for moving to Milton, trust me.

  • Doc

    Of course American women are threatened by foreign women – in general they are everything American women aren’t so they are more feminine, more attractive, sweeter, thinner, etc… Of course the problem with bringing them into the US is they lack that family support they had in their own country and are exposed to the same culture that ruined American women. So over time, they tend to have the same problem US women have, which is why if you value your wife/marriage, you should avoid bringing her back to the US if you can.

    That isn’t saying anything bad about them as such, but about the poisonous and insidious nature of feminism in this country. It is everywhere – in movies, advertisements, you name it.

    I love foreign women and they are one of the bright lights of traveling in other cultures.

    • 1

      American women don’t give a fuck about foreign brides.

      Because american of relatively good looks get tons of quality guys whenever they please themselves.
      You might theoretise here about american vs foreign women,but if tomorrow a foxy american chick,even on a chubby side,will wink you across the room-you will run there all salivating.

      And feminists give even less fuck about foreign brides.Because foreign brides are for Betas,and feminists know that USA is oversupplied with betas.

      • Uncle Elmer

        You are doing a good job of pointing out who is the “beta” on this thread.

      • T and A Man

        “Because american (women) of relatively good looks get tons of quality guys whenever they please themselves.”

        yeah, but what do the other 98% do? Troll websites when guys dare looking further perhaps?

  • Ross

    STATS. Folks think a little. You have a low divorce rate because you have LOW MARRIAGE RATE! Nothing to celebrate! VAWA makes it possible for a woman to get her Greencard a whole lot quicker just by “claiming” domestic abuse. She meets a better match in the USA, all she has to say is “He abused me, go to a women’s shelter” and BAM! There you go, no obligation to stay with her first sponsor, AND she gets a piece of your paycheck to boot. If you marry non-USA/Canadian, DON’T stay in either country. Have your residence in her country. In Canada you are responsible for THREE years for the person you bring over. If she divorces you and goes on welfare and/or collects any government assistance to go to school. YOU ( the man/woman who married her) is on the hook. There was one woman who managed to get her husband deported before she paid a thing. Gender bias right there. She made the mistake of marrying him, yet the officials deported him. Man tried to do the same thing to deport his wife…nothing happened he still owes the government money.

    It’s not the act of “marriage” it’s the liabilities of “DIVORCE” one should be more concerned about, cause the courts are definitely not routing for men.

    • 1

      + the average time of a marriage to divorce with a foreign bride is longer due to logistics.It takes approx up to 5-6 years to get the Green Card/Permanent residence and than some more time to emancipate herself (get a new alpha lover,a lawyer,a job etc)

    • T and A Man

      It sounds like you’re the one who need to think….

      “STATS. Folks think a little. You have a low divorce rate because you have LOW MARRIAGE RATE!”

      Well firstly, the ‘marriage rate’ is 100%.. they come here as brides. not as unmarried defactos. So what you’re trying to epxress isn’t a rate, but an absolute, nominal figure.

      Then divorce ‘rate’ is also a ratio. it can only be between 0-100%, and it is a portion of the above mentioned nominal number of marriages. If the above nominal number is smaller, it plays no material bearing on the ‘rate’.

      You’re a moron, you should stop now.

      • Ross

        Read the article again. They compared FOREIGN BRIDE marriages to LOCAL MARRIAGES! Last I looked, there are MORE locals than foreign brides. So the foreign bride numbers will be at a LOW RATE. Work on your reading comprehension skills and learn to think.

        Compare apples to apples and oranges to oranges. Foreign brides do not have the same numbers as local brides. That’s pretty simple to decipher and hence a twisted comparison.

      • T and A Man

        You repeat the same problem, are you retarded or something?

        I know the nominal number of foreign brides are less, that is irrelevant to the divorce rate.

        8 out of 10, is the same as 80 out of 100, which is the same as 800 out of 1,000, and that is the same as 8,000 out of 10,000.

        The figure is 80%, and comparing the number of local brides to foreign brides does not impact on that percentage.

        Congratulations, you’ve confirmed yourself as the dumbest person on the internet. Pick up your participation medal on the way out.

  • Blujack21

    Maybe its because they marry out of practical reasons versus ‘love’. Companionship versus a romantic partner. Face it, romantic loves fades. When you marry for practicality there is less expectations and feelings involved. Most people divorce on emotions versus using their brain. Its why women ask for more divorces.

    • Ross

      MONEY. Key issue to divorce is MONEY. Divorce is profitable for a woman, period. That’s why they initiate it. Man won the lottery, he was planning on retiring with his wife. They were married for 12 years. As soon as he won, she divorced him and took half. Her reasoning. “I don’t need you anymore to retire.”

  • Mikediver

    I have been married to a Filipina bride for the past 5 years. She is much younger than me, and I am probably way below her SMV. However, she seems very happy with the arrangement. I get many hate stares from middle aged angry American women (but I repeat myself). I get some comments from young guys either congratulating me on picking up a young chick or telling me that I am robbing the cradle. She is 30 but looks like she is in her teens. She was from an upper to middle class family. Her biggest adjustment was not having servants to do all the cleaning and cooking. Very early on she called her mother to complain about doing yaya (maid) work. Her mother, may she be eternally blessed, told her to quit bitching, roll up her sleeves, and get to work; that she was married now. This is the difference in culture support for marriage we need in the west. In a study of marriage based on the 2010 census data, the only marriage segment that was increasing was American men marrying foreign women. The only divorce statistics I saw were for American men married to Filipina wives. This statistic said the overall divorce rate was 20%; which supports the contention in the OP.
    I had several friends prior to my interest in a foreign bride that were married to Filipinas. They gave me good advice and introductions. One guy had been married for about 50 years to the girl he met while stationed at Clark Air Force Base in the Philippines. One of the other two guys had been married less than a year. He soon was put through the divorce meat grinder. So I knew all was not rosy and guaranteed.

    It is important that the women have a cultural support system when they get here. By knowing other Filipinas I was able to get her involved with a good group right away. We pretty much only socializes with other American-Filipina couples. Most Filipinas have no interest or contact with, as they put it, the white bitches. Most of the couples have an age difference that would be unacceptable in the USA. This is cultural bigotry. In their culture a significantly older husband is preferable, and the norm. I will say that most of the guys are solid 5-6s and most of the women, other than being 10 or so years younger, are also solid 5-6s. This is called assortive mating. The difference between the Filipina and the American woman in this type of case is these women seem to be happy with their husbands, and aren’t pissed off that they had to settle for less than a 10.

    For those suggesting I should move to the country my bride is from if I like it so much, I intend to exit this feminist hell hole as soon as I can viably expatriate.

    • Ross

      GOOD! :) All the best to you! :D

  • Uncle Elmer

    Many foreign countries have low divorce rates for some simple reasons : divorce is frowned upon while concubinage is accepted. Men can continue their marriage and family while having a mistress. This is strictly forbidden in western culture and the man is expected to self-destruct rather than continue his marriage while having an outlet in the form of a girlfriend.

    • 1

      What foreign countries do you exactly speak about?
      Eastern europe has higher divorce rates than USA,nothing to discuss here. Phillipines obviously lower (religion,lack of emancipation).Brazil-have no idea,but from what I have seen there the marriage is quite a relative concept,everyone f*cks everyone.Some countries don’t even have divorce laws.

      A good thing about abroad is that you might escape paying alimony (cause it does not exist in many countries).But you will have to live there,and a woman with the local knowledge will f*ck you up in no time.
      Should you bring her to states-she will f*ck you up using the American law.You might keep her away from the civilization,creating barriers for her emancipation.But it will be temporary.And it won;t work with women from 2nd world (old commies).Might perhaps work with some uneducated,religious chick from S.East Asia.But who needs such woman?

      Anyhow,if someone wants something he will find tons of excuses.Thats what you guys here do.
      You refuse to listen to advises of people,coming up with ridicculous arguments for foreign brides.But who gives a f* ?Ifyou don’t understand that marriage is a NO-WIN game for a man ANYHOW -its your problem.More sweet girls for those who do.

      • Ross

        Divorce is even rampant in China. The Chinese Courts changed family law because they saw why women were getting divorced. They were taking marital property in the process. It was profitable for them to divorce. So what did Chinese law do? They changed it to who ever owns the house, KEEPS the house upon divorce. Parents would buy their sons homes as wedding gifts and women would divorce and take the profits from the sale of the home. NOT ANYMORE! Guess what happened to divorce numbers…they started dropping.

      • Mikediver

        The Philippines has no divorce. It is against the law. If you marry a Filipina in the USA then get the marriage registered in the Philippines, she can not legally divorce you in the Philippines. The rule is that the American husband can divorce the Filipina wife int he US and the Philippines will recognize the divorce. However, if the wife divorces the American husband i the US, the Philippines will not recognize the divorce, and as far as the Philippine national registry of marriages is concerned the woman is still married. The result is if she divorces you here she can not get remarried there.

      • I Love Indians!

        “The Philippines has no divorce. It is against the law. If you marry a Filipina in the USA then get the marriage registered in the Philippines, she can not legally divorce you in the Philippines. The rule is that the American husband can divorce the Filipina wife int he US and the Philippines will recognize the divorce. However, if the wife divorces the American husband i the US, the Philippines will not recognize the divorce, and as far as the Philippine national registry of marriages is concerned the woman is still married. The result is if she divorces you here she can not get remarried there.”

        But why would a man want to stay married to a woman who wants to leave him but can’t? That would be pure hell. Better to let her go and find someone who really wants to be with you.

    • Ross

      You are very correct. My own grandfather has 3 wives, and 20 children. A friend of mine has an associate in Ghana who has a wife, a girlfriend and a mistress. The wife knows about all of them, and STILL doesn’t leave him! :P Divorce laws there are simple. What you came with, you leave with. NOTHING extra. Wife bothers you, you send her back to her family, and her family usually comes back to you to negotiate how to fix the marriage. Divorce frowned upon!

  • Uncle Elmer

    “Lol..in ur dreams hahaja.Women don’t let their husbands to let them fuck in the ass (unless you are blackmailing her somehow).The ass is for hunky alpha out there (a “girls night out” for a husband).”

    My apologies, I did not mean “anal sex”. I meant my wife has a nice ass.

    • Old Horndog

      What’s wrong with anal?

      • Uncle Elmer

        Incontinence, for starters…

  • hipstersstink

    I’m glad someone researched this. I’ve always been skeptical of the mainstream story you get about this avenue. I look at my cousin. He isn’t exactly top caliber in terms of financial success, career success or whatever else women in the western world like to judge men by….but he’s a solid guy.

    He had a hard time with women back home. Was always taken advantage of. He got fed up after the last western girl he dated (who had a kid and he happily took in to help raise). So he went the foreign bride route. Asian girl. He’s never been happier. Now has two kids and is happily married. She’s grateful just for the little things and does everything around the house. She’s happy with it. Who are these western women to say otherwise? It drives me bats that these women think they have the female population’s interest at hand. Look beyond the veil, it’s obviously more selfish than that for we know the ways of the western woman.

    Bottom line…I’m tired of guys buying into this notion that is perpetuated by western females. They don’t like the competition because it interferes with their “have my cake and eat it too” mentality.

  • http://spootville.blogspot.com/ Tim

    My compliments on your bio.

  • http://www.MailOrderBrideNews.com Michael

    Hello Kings,

    I am a blogger with a website on international marriage — aka “mail order brides.” We are objective and not related to any of the agencies in the business. You can find agencies on our website if you are looking for a “mail order bride” (or “mail order husband!”)

    If you want unbiased, no-nonsense info on finding a foreign bride and avoid scams, check us out!

    Thanks,

    Michael

  • http://www.MailOrderBrideNews.com Michael

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  • Mark Minter

    I would think two years would be the “acid” test. If they don’t run off when the status changes from “conditional” to “permanent” then they are not scamming. So near as this article says “For the length of time monitored” which I assume is longer than two years.

    Even though I had posted one of those spaz comments, I am delighted to hear this news.

    And I have been so thoughtful as to share with it my fellow Jezebel readers that 80% of marriages between European and American men with foreign women are a success. Because I am sure that they too will be just delighted at the news that hordes of American Men might rush out an marry a foreigner and they would never have to endure the agony of being married to one of us.

    Guys comment on this in other blogs. Post the link. Get this word around.

    I have this theory that if you wanted to end this recession, create a fast track K-2 visa where the guy pays $10,000 and USCIS immediately cuts the visa and then does the research of the forms after the visa has been cut, assuming everything will be fine and pull it if they find problems. Can you imagine the scene at international airports?

    You let about 500,000 women into this country as wives and let me tell you, consumption will rise, and housing inventory will shrink. All them video gaming boys see those foreign brides their buddies show up with and Hey, guess what? Instant motivation to stop being a herb. This recession would be over tomorrow.

    • James A

      “You let about 500,000 women into this country as wives and let me tell you, consumption will rise, and housing inventory will shrink. All them video gaming boys see those foreign brides their buddies show up with and Hey, guess what? Instant motivation to stop being a herb. This recession would be over tomorrow.”

      The hilarious thing is that this is almost certainly true.

    • Ross

      VAWA fast track to a Green Card. No point in bringing in more unproductives to a declining economy. The stimulus money went to women job sectors that were already doing good, at the sacrifice of construction jobs men could do. You think bringing in more women is going to help, when the men have no jobs?

  • Robert

    I’m divorced, from my Polish wife who wasn’t quite a mail-order bride, but we met and married before Poland was liberalised. One of her concerns was that she was nearly 24 and without an eligible man in view, and that was basically OVER THE HILL in Poland. Outside Anglo culture, if a woman doesn’t lock in a good guy by 25 at latest, they know they are on the rejects pile, while their Anglo sisters haven’t even realised there’s a wall ahead of them. So they are serious from that alone.

    • Ross

      Same thing in China. 27 is over the hill! Why? ‘Cause the younger the woman 19-25 the stronger chance a son will be born. As technology mitigates the need to reproduce early you have more women waiting till they’re 30 to have any children. Match.com full of 30 and over women stating they want to have children….they missed the boat 10 years ago.

      • Anonymous

        ya that is true they need to have their kids in their 20s,otherwise giving birth into their 30s are more likely to result with a child with disabilities
        women need to marry early so they can give time to see if the marrage works then have kids
        my mom was 20 when she married then had her 1st kid at 24…..marrying at 24 an later plannin for a kid is not a good idea due to the health risks of mother and child involved.plus u wont have the energy to keep up with young toddlers

      • John

        Don’t even waste your time with any Chinese female. The reason the Chinese men do not want them is because the women are insane narcissists. I am lucky i got rid of mine and i had known her for 18months and she became less and less human. Also the kinder you are the more weak they think you are. Real personality problems. If you love them they will eventualy destroy you.

  • @@@@

    Its all wishful thinking. I mean the Union(United Feministings of America) has worked hard to negotiate a company killing labor agreement and these are the scabs(foreign women) that Management is hiring. Have you ever heard anyone say anything positive about scabs? One thing that I’ve never seen mentioned is that in many of these areas men behave extremely badly towards women. Cheating, lying drinking, and sometimes even physical abuse are common. And I think after these experiences many women tend to latch on tightly to what they consider to be a good man. Often this is the same man who in our culture might be looked down upon by women for other reasons(he’s a nice guy–*yawn*).

  • J

    15 years together this month. The myth of gold digging international brides is perpetuated by overweight American shrew-women.

    If American men knew the amazing options that can be had by expanding one’s horizions beyond the US border not a single American woman would ever get married ever! It’s like a Big Mac compared to a Filet Mingon–your choice!

    Our Culture is poison. Do Not Drink From the Poison Well!

    • Scott Payne

      Overweight-shrews = FAT COW COUCH POTATOES….hahahahaha

  • American Dude

    Great post Harry, one thing I wanted to point out was these aren’t mail order brides in the strictest since either. They are not mailed out of a catalogue. You chat the women, skype, talk for months, arrange a meet, then after all that decide to get married if everything is right. The bottom line is American women really just can’t compete…I still say just pack your bags and travel, I think you’ll get even better quality.

  • Mikediver

    My first trip to the Philippines was a scuba diving trip after the tsunami of 2004 ruined the reefs in Thailand. When I got back and told my friends who were married to Filipinas that i had met no “nice” girls, they said of course not, no decent girl will have anything to do with a tourist; you have to be introduced. Now that does not mean you need to go through a mail order bride system. Just find a guy locally that is married to a Filipina or check out any Filipino American Cultural Society in your area. Get to know some people and ask to be introduced to a nice girl. Be serious, and let them know this is for marriage and not sex, and you will have no problem.

    When I was visiting my then fiancee’s family I had lots of her relatives and neighbors come over with their daughters and ask me if I could introduce them to some marriage minded American men. I warned them that I had few to no friends younger than 40. They said, “Good. Solid responsible men who are ready to settle down are over 40.” Then they would give me a picture of their daughter with a email address on the back. The last step was when I asked them how old their daughters were. When the typical response of 16 came back I returned the photo and said no way would I cross an international border with a bunch of pictures and email addresses of under age girls.

    • Samseau

      Well, looks like you missed out on the opportunity of a lifetime. You passed up the chance to marry a young virgin? Keep in mind 16 is probably well past the age of consent in those countries.

      • mikediver

        My bride was a 25 year old virgin at our wedding. All our dating was chaperoned. She came from a traditional conservative religious family in a small town in the provinces. She has little to no association with what she calls the “white bitches” so she does not ge t contaminated with western values. I was surprised at the extent of the Filipino community here in the midwest portion of the US.

  • Spaniard

    This article was extremely well written. Nice job, I hope to see more of your articles on ROK.

  • http://parentingtime.net/ Mike

    As the American husband of a lovely Cambodian lady 20 years my junior, I can say without hesitation that American men should look abroad for wives. American women are IMPOSSIBLE to have a decent relationship with and will turn on you in a heartbeat. I have quite a few friends who also have foreign wives (mostly from SE Asia) and collectively we are by far the happiest men we know.

    • Anonymous

      noticed that alot of guys(eastern and western nations alike) when picking a wife form east asia they always pick south east asia….thailand and phillipines in particular..why is that?
      why not girls from japan hong kong taiwan korea or mongolia as well?
      i know some men in japan and korea get girls from thailand. But dont understand since their woman are still femine.

  • Anonymous

    i think these mail order brides are just fine when you screen them properly. chances are she is just as scared about the relationship than u are. but i say avoid girls from oppresive or war torn or poor countrys where u can get fooled ripped off and divorced.
    happened to 1 of my dads co workers…he killed himself(WTF) when his arrange marrage wife from india quickly divorced him when she got citizenship(they wanted a petition to deport her)
    another was on tv of a guy bringing his soon to be wife from iran…finds out later she brought her fiance over when this poor beta brought her over.
    war torn chicks(congo,afghanistan,syria,etc) will be even more desperate to get out plus theylll have the worst case PTS or some other mental porblem to deal with

    all in all mail order brides and foreign woman are great as long as u avoid severe poverty ridden or oppressive or war torn nations.

    eastern europe east asia and latin america seem to be the perfect haven to find the perfect bride

  • Anna

    Nice article, refreshing to read something positive about women from the former USSR, for once. As a girl coming from the region now living in the West, it is painful how often I hear myths about myself and other Eastern European ladies in which we are directly or indirectly called gold diggers or sluts for having “made it” out West (never mind that many of us are here on scholastic merit or supporting ourselves, working as your colleagues). A lot of times you want to say “Don’t let your jealousy show too much” (cause let’s be honest, most of this negativity comes from Western women, some of whom, it seems, don’t look in the mirror before leaving the house) but saying this out loud, of course, would be too ugly, and it’s not really the way to win yourself any friends.
    Mail order marriages nowadays are not so different from matches made on dating sites like okcupid, match.com, etc. What makes some people hysterical is probably the fact that the topic of marriage is immediately brought to the table. Marriage as an institution is facing problems in the West- so many people have laughed when I “confessed” that I want to get married, but I don’t understand why. I don’t interfere with your “non-traditional” ways of cohabiting, but if a girl still dreams about having a normal man, a house and a family to take care of, why has that now become laughable? These articles show seem to reveal that something has come unhinged in the balance of Western gender relationships.

    • so cuuuute

      Let me guess: you are around 32-34 and you’ve been previously divorced back home?

      • Bob

        Back to your cats, troll.

      • Johnny

        Anna writes a well thought out comment and that’s your response? Bitter angry troll!!

      • atila

        and english is annas 2nd or 3rd language

      • http://www.facebook.com/vincentumbe Vincent Muambi

        You’re a fucking retard man. I know a girl who is of Russian descent myself. She’s very nice and humble. You’re a prick my dumb-ass friend.

      • http://www.facebook.com/vincentumbe Vincent Muambi

        You’re a fucking retard man. I know a girl who is of Russian descent myself. She’s very nice and humble. You’re a prick my dumb-ass friend.

      • atila

        back in your box troll…..xxxx anna

    • Vincent

      You comment is spot on. Unfortunately North America is full of idiots and morons, and the responses to your comment says it all. People are so ignorant and dumb-down it’s not even funny. I wish people would stop being so judgmental. This is typical of North American society today. We like to trash something that or someone who is entirely foreign. How sad.

  • http://parentingtime.net/ Mike

    “they always pick south east asia….thailand and phillipines in particular..why is that?”

    In general, women from these countries have a strong sense of family, they *like* men and they don’t see men as “competitors” or resources to be mined. They tend to be very sweet and gentle-natured and they abhor divorce. They’re willing to do their part in a marriage or relationship and they don’t have a “Princess” complex like so many American women do. They’re also stunningly lovely, which is nice. :)

    Seriously, my friends and I who have wives from SE Asia are the happiest guys we know, bar none. Most of our friends with American wives are unhappy, stressed, and are openly jealous of us and our wives.

  • http://parentingtime.net/ Mike

    > Mail order marriages nowadays are not so different from matches made on
    > dating sites like okcupid, match.com, etc.

    No, they’re very, very different.

    > These articles show seem to reveal that something has come unhinged in
    > the balance of Western gender relationships.

    Ya think? :)
    Yes, something has indeed ” come unhinged” in Western gender relationships. That’s why I and so many other men have found it necessary to marry a lady from the other side of the planet- it’s because American women are generally impossible to have a good relationship with. No matter how much they have or how much you give them, they want more More MORE, and they’ll throw you under the bus in a heartbeat to get it.

    For many American women, divorce is just another tool in the bag, and they’ll use it if they feel unhappy, unsatisfied, under-appreciated, grumpy, etc etc etc. They will rarely try to fix what’s wrong, they just want out. They don’t respect men (but they demand respect from men) and they don’t care about anything except their desires. Woe to you if you cannot fulfill their every wish, whim, and unspoken fantasy.

  • Fatty McManjaw

    Once a foreign bride gets to the US, she’ll develop American friends who will pollute her mind with feminist bullshit. Then she’ll not be haaaaaaaaappy and her good nature will be destroyed. Finally she’ll find the guy she knew who had the band back in her youth and bang him silly while you’re posted overseas to pay the bills for her fucking shoes and baubles.

    Although they start with a purer form, foreign brides are not immune to cultural pollution, and you still need to be on top of your game.

    Former blue piller, ex-wife from the Phillipines. 19 years married. Had the Manosphere existed in 1995 I’d probably still be happily married. I blame myself somewhat for having the blue pill attitude. She did me a favor though – I escaped without having to pay cash and prizes, and for slightly overweight guy in his 50s who’s finding his alpha the pussy parade is endless.

    • Anonymous

      my parents are immigrants and thats the case the woman do westernize when they more and more come into contact with outside that community plus tv culutre will influence as well

      • Anonymous

        lotta times they can become worse (bitcher as in) than the local westernized ones

  • http://parentingtime.net/ Mike

    “Once a foreign bride gets to the US, she’ll develop American friends who will pollute her mind with feminist bullshit”

    I’m sure that happens sometimes, but not always. My wife generally finds American women gross, crude, and tactless, and she doesn’t want to be anything like them. She thinks the whole ‘feminista’ crap is ridiculous and funny.

  • Anonymous

    I just have spoken this morning with Ukrainian FB of mine (still married to a Brit lol.. just half a year to wait till Indef Leave to remain..poor girl)

    Anyways she lived in States for a year and I asked what did she miss about it?

    She told me: wearing flip-flops!

    Lol.I immediately thought of this place haha.

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  • http://randwrand.wordpress.com William Rand

    From my experience, you made an important pont here:

    “And I think that the majority of guys who end up going through hell with a foreign woman tend to meet these women in their home countries, instead of meeting those marriage minded foreign women in the woman’s home country.”

    I stopped dating United States women in 1996. The first foreign woman I was seriously involved with in the United States ran around with other men so much that her parents, also living in the USA, yelled at her, pointing to me and saying that she had a good man and should stop fooling around. The second foreign woman I was involved with and living with in the United States called the police on me because she wanted money. I am now living in Mexico and married to a wonderful Mexican lady who treats me better than any United States woman–or foreign woman living in the United States–ever did. I have a blog that goes into more detail on that point:
    http://refuge4mrasandexpats.wordpress.com/2013/01/13/expatriates-and-the-language-block/.

    Sure, there are bad women everywhere. There is no promised land. However, in all of my experiences and observations, foreign women, especially those who live outside of the major cities in other non-English speaking countries, are generally nicer, sexier, more supportive of their man, more sincere, more emotionally stable and more faithful than women in the United States.

  • Hari or Harry? (confusedmale25@yahoo.com)

    Is your photo a joke or are you really a desi dude? Hari?

    Desi dudes are marrying American women at a greater rate than Desi women are marrying American men. WHY?

    • http://www.rooshvforum.com/user-777.html Athlone McGinnis

      It is a joke. Harry is a white male.

  • Psychonaut

    Very cool self-introductiom.

  • Connor

    My wife is from Ukraine, I met her online. People find it funny that I’m 24, and my wife is actually older than me at 26, and I’m not some crusty old guy with a younger woman. I tihnk we need to stop those stereotypes because gold-diggers are around everywhere in the US and Canada where I live. Nothing against Canadian nor American women either, it’s just I love my Ukrainian wife.

    • Vincent

      Connor you are a true gentleman. I can’t stand guys who hate on our foreign women. I find it detestable.

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  • Jason

    When I eventually get hitched it will be with a south-east Asian girl. I only know one man who has married a North American woman and is very happy in his marriage.

  • Johnny

    Unreal. Great report….just confirms I did the right thing by a) NEVER even thinking about getting married in the US and b) moving abroad to work and chase cooler, more rationale, feminine and hotter women

  • Hawk

    Harry, I’m interested at the statistics regarding marriages of Swiss women with foreign men. Can you detail them by nationality or quote the original source?
    Very good info.

  • http://twitter.com/atpcliff cliff

    I know one guy: Russian mail order bride…long term greatness.

    Another guy: Russian mail order bride skips out soon after arriving in US. Get’s 2nd Russian mail order…long term greatness.

    Know more than 5 guys with SE Asian wives….everyone I know has had it turn out great.

    In the U.S., 30 states have 16 as the age of consent…the rest are 17 & 18.

    In the Phillipines, in the case of marrying someone older, the age of consent is 12. Legislators in the Phillipines are trying to get the age raised to 16.

    So, the 16 year olds are OK per the Phillipines, and in the vast majority of states a 16 year old is OK to marry also.

  • Disturbing and Creepy

    I can see why a Filipino mail-order-bride married to a Swiss man wouldn’t last 5 minutes. First, both would be communicating in English – a 2nd language for both of them. The culture shock, the language, religion, climate shock.

    Men that buy humans are pigs, plain and simple. I do feel very sorry for the Filipino mail-order-brides. They are desperate women who resort to sex slavery because their family often needs the money. Must be so repulsive to sleep with a horny old white guy because you need to pay a hospital bill for your mother’s operation.

    Only the worst kind of man would take advantage of a young woman’s unfortunate economic situation.

    • Bright_City_Lights

      I agree, however, these poor desperate women are usually generations younger than their “husband” on top of the culture clash, economic clash, different religion, language, etc. I put husband in quotes, because these aren’t “real” marriages. There’s no partnership. There is nothing these couples could possibly have in common. The man holds all the cards and is the dictator in the relationship.

      These men don’t want real partners. They want complete control and submissive young, pretty wives. Usually, these men have been divorced a couple of times and are failures with women.

      • LOL

        I’m a good-looking 30 year old guy that’s married to a Filipino wife that’s 27.

        I was able to get American women, but you guys are just so unpleasant.

        Don’t be butthurt because a few guys don’t want to date chicks with dicks.

  • redonkulas.com

    I am thinking of this also, I am well traveled and have seen what the women in other countries look like and act. I am severely displeased with American women, UK women are just as bad. Women are just pissed here in america about this because for every one who ships in a woman or wife that means one USA woman has to buy a cat.

  • http://www.facebook.com/pete.cowell.359 Pete Cowell

    That’s one of the most disturbing articles I’ve ever read. Calling western women sluts and whores? No wonder you can’t find a woman in your own country with being so nasty, and have to get a desperate poor woman.

  • MAN

    Trying to explain in general anything to a woman is difficult. Men and women are very different and see the world from very different perspectives… yes the genes really do make a huge difference. Men see the real world and women live in dream world. Ever been stoned? Well imagine living that way your entire life? Mom won’t hug my dad after all the bills get paid? Brother in law is about to have a heart attack while the wife goes to school and doesnt help the kids with their homework while taking money from dad for school? Sister doesnt like the house she has so figures lets get a more expensive one…. yeah well thats life. Women are for sex and most dont like it after 25. Find one you can handle asian or not. Be warned… std test, credit check, parents alive, has a savings account… i could talk all day. Just dont believe the lies, men tend to be suckers, I know because I am a man… a sucker… NOT anymore. I be a player from now on… way better than trying to actually date women. Sorry if you all get butt hurt… believe me if i found ANY girl that was worth dating id be married and not researching whether or not the girl im having sex with is married or a mail order bride or who knows…

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