Masculinity the-matrix5

March 20th, 2014

The Red Pill Can’t Bring Back What We’ve Lost


The Matrix movie gave us the red pill concept that “we’ve been lied to.” Red pill or blue pill—accept the truth or go back to the pleasure and suffering of your dream world. We love red pill for the bitter truth it brings. However that truth is only the beginning. In many ways we are looking in the wrong place for answers. In the movie there is a small scene, easily forgotten, when Neo visits the Oracle. The young boy tells him:

“Do not try to bend the spoon, that is impossible. Simply understand that there is no spoon. Then you will see it is not the spoon that bends, but yourself”

On face value this is hockus pockus, Zen bullshit, but I’ve meditated on this phrase a lot. It is one of the most excellent pieces of wisdom, and to consciously understand it and then put it into your life will create many changes. This same phrase is used in martial arts like Tai Chi. When you can bend like water, no one can attack you.

Neo: What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?
Morpheus: No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.

Here is red pill 2.0…

The old fashioned concept of a relationship or marriage no longer exists.

I’ve tried four LTRs, multiple years each, different women from different parts of the world. I’ve also tried game and ONS, hookups, PUA, etc. Neither gives a perfect solution. All my LTRs however ended up in a kind of weird competition, where instead of team work, we were struggling with each other for resources and using each other.  Why? Simply because a woman does not step inside your world for protection. She doesn’t need it. She has options. She is running her own agenda. She might not even know what that agenda is.

Having sex with any woman, outside of a prostitute or a cheesy ONS, opens you up to a relationship with her, at least in her eyes. It is therefore very important to define what exactly it is that you want from a woman. How to protect yourself and how to make sure she isn’t using you?

I’ve spent the last couple of years trying to bend the spoon with pure alpha and I can tell you it’s a waste of time. Guys like Roosh have bent the spoon, by not even attempting to get into LTRs. Spinning plates, game, mini-relationships are other options, but even players become a little disillusioned after a while. Deep down they are still seeking some kind of commitment from a woman.

The reason for this is because an LTR is much more equitable. You obtain many fringe benefits of female company outside of sex. You wouldn’t hire a secretary just for a week, so why would you start a relationship just to chuck it out and start again. You wouldn’t do it in your professional life, so why the hell would you do it personally?

The red pill ignores a huge tract of history

What has set the world (and women) free and changed the playing field is not feminism or new age sensitive men, but technology. Farmers didn’t free slaves from the goodness of their hearts—they freed them because automation was becoming cheaper. All around the world slaves were being liberated as mechanized farming took over.

Women’s liberation followed decades later, as technology improved rapidly. Red pill tells us that we’ve been lied to as men. That feminism is bullshit and looks out for neither sex, and basically amounts to a spin-off of Marxism. If the USSR was the Catholic Church, feminism is the Baptists or Mormons, just some splinter ideology along the same lines. This is fine on face value. The red pill also tells us that by adopting a more masculine frame, by understanding more of what it means to be a man, and by putting women in their place, that things will work out much better on all fronts—not just with women but professionally, financially, socially, and so on.

What’s wrong with this picture is the same thing that is wrong with men’s attitudes in most of their approaches to women: it puts all the onus on the man. If you’re not getting what you want from your relationships and sex life, then it’s your fault for not being alpha enough. It’s your fault for not being strong enough. It’s your fault for not having tight game. It’s your fault for not having big muscles.

This is like telling a guy who’s drowning in an Arctic uce flow that he just needs to swim faster. The guy is going to freeze to death in a couple of minutes, long before he reaches dry land. Swimming faster will not make much of a difference.

Red pill tells us that women like to be led, that they appreciate a strong alpha male and that if you just improve yourself, everything will go your way. Just swim harder dear fellow and soon you will be able to climb out of the icy waters of sensitive men and hardened feminism. This is bullshit.

Were women obedient, loving and kind to men because alpha men led them well?


Because THEY HAD NO OTHER CHOICE and their very survival depended on it.

I know which one I’m putting my money on.

Red pill is just a caffeine booster, it ain’t gonna fix a broken leg

A woman today is free. She can do whatever she likes. She can seek education and employment on her own merits, she can open her own bank account, lease her own apartment, buy her own furniture, and get artificially inseminated at a sperm bank. She has absolutely no need for a man. She can build her own career and do as she pleases. As much as her genetics might make her more easily led, she always has the option not to be led. She’s like a dog with several masters.

Females used to rely on men for their very survival, but today they don’t and this has never been the case in hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution. Today a woman can walk down the street, at night, on her own with little fear. Many streets have CCTV. She has a cell phone in her pocket to talk to anyone if she’s in trouble. She most likely has a car or can hail a passing cab that is safe and reliable, fully registered and traceable. They don’t truly need us, and because of that, relationships no longer work.

From a woman’s point of view, the natural incentive (danger) to maintain a relationship is gone, not because of feminism, or men being too soft, but because of technology. Throwing sexual relationships away is one way of bending to the new times. Everything is disposable now, a huge compromise we’ve had to make. I don’t know about you, but I want fine bone china and silverware, not some paper plate and plastic cutlery.

I can have the qualities I want from a woman, with performance, obedience and my expectations met if I enter into a business-like relationship with her from the very beginning and give her an incentive (most likely financial) to fulfill her side of the bargain. Otherwise I am involving myself with another person, a relative stranger, and opening myself up to all kinds of personal liabilities.

Red pill tells men to labor like mules

Game and spinning plates and so forth can work, but it’s trying to take something for nothing, just as women tend to do in LTRs. The problem with taking something for nothing is it usually involves large amounts of hard labor. Women have to work over time to emotionally dominate their husbands and it makes them both miserable. Real players have to make a virtual profession out of hunting new lays. Not many have the time of day for that long term and good luck once you hit the mid 40s.

What remains of the LTR is some kind of contractual employment situation. This is after all where most LTRs end up anyway, with contracts and lawyers. Hire a maid or housekeeper, a secretary or a personal assistant and include sex in the job description. In this way you’d have the equity of a long term relationship, with performance incentive, hierarchy, alpha, leadership and boundaries already laid out.

I am sure there are other possibilities worth discussing but what we cannot do at all is try to follow old school attitudes and ideals. Instead we must accept the old fashioned male–female dynamic is long gone. Bend yourself, before someone else bends you.

Read Next: There Is No Spoon

About the Author

is originally from London. He has traveled the world, speaks 4 languages and although sporting a degree from one of the finest engineering universities in the world, he's never done an honest day's work, preferring to live by his wits. He is a perpetual insomniac and rarely wakes up before midday.


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