I recently spent a significant amount of time in Brazil. When we decided to do Traditional Sex Roles week, I immediately thought of the wealth of experiences I had with Brazilian women that were simply unlike anything I had experienced during my upbringing in the United States. Here are 5 characteristics that have been stamped out of all but the most traditional western women:
1. They are modest
We know that Brazilian women are more openly sexual—they will not hesitate to play up their physical virtues. Once you get to know them, however, you observe a quiet modesty that accompanies even the cutest of Brasileiras. The best looking girls I talked to didn’t possess a fraction of the self-aggrandizing bluster I see regularly on OKcupid profiles of America’s fattest and meanest girls.
Said to me by a beautiful Brazilian girl: “I never thought you would be interested in someone who looked like me.”
2. They care about your sexual fulfillment
For Brazilian women, sex isn’t just a transactional bargaining tool or an opportunity to express a liberated, patriarchy-free statement about the equality of the coital act. They want to express passion for their lover and wish for both parties to have a transcendental experience. Contrast this with women in the west, who will use you as a pogo stick in a vain attempt to find enjoyment for only themselves. I’ve had girls stop after they came, get up, and tell me to finish myself off. Brazilians tell you to keep going because their happiness is affected by yours.
Said to me by a Brazilian girl: “Can I come now? I want to, but I’ve been waiting for you.”
3. They are eager to please
We know that the aphorism “Happy wife, happy life” is a sensitive, new age lie that destroys relationships in the west. As evidenced by their antidepressant usage, constant railing against social norms, and generally acerbic demeanor, western women have reached a point where they can never be truly happy. If you attempt to make them happy, they will interpret it as weakness and walk all over you.
In contrast, Brasileiras understand that pleasing a man is the fountain from which a well-adjusted human relationship flows.They know that the company, security, and emotional investment of a high-value man is not something to be casually discarded. Their vulnerability is endearing, which in turn motivates men to invest in them emotionally and financially.
Said to me by a Brazilian girl: “I was nervous that I would be too young for you.”
4. They maintain a feminine appearance
The women in Brazil were by far the most feminine of any that I have encountered. Rather than regarding makeup, long hair, and heels as oppressive tools of the sexist establishment, they relish their ability to make themselves look better. They know that their Master’s degree isn’t what catches a man’s eye when he walks into a bar.
They are not only focused only on their physical attributes, because they understand that their looks are the hook from which other interest develops. Even plain-looking girls attempt to accentuate their positive points.
Said to me by a Brazilian girl: “Why would I ever cut my hair off? Then I would look like an old woman.”
5. They have a desire to learn about the world
When I asked Brazilian girls what they liked to do for fun, there wasn’t a single one who gave the answer “Shopping and reality TV.” I can’t tell you how many girls I talked to who were interested in art, politics, music, and actually working at building their familial and friendship bonds. They are also willing to engage in deeper conversations, entertain world views that differ from their own, and even change their viewpoint if they see they are in error.
Said to me by a Brazilian girl: “I think there is a lot I can learn from you”
Throughout my time in Brazil I observed these traditional values leading to happier relationships and a more solid family unit. Relationships did not appear to be epic power struggles for control, but rather partnerships where traditional sex roles allowed women to be more fulfilled and gave men more of an incentive to invest in them. American women would do well to take a lesson from their Brazilian counterparts.
Find the ROK staff discussing Traditional Sex Roles Week with the hashtag #BackToTheKitchen.
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